Does anyone have any thoughts or advice? Things have been terrible in my relationship for years and have come to a head in the last two years. I have put in a lot of work being stable for the kids in the face of a very unstable and angry husband and also in trying to talk with him about the cause of the (very deep rooted) problems, to see if we could fix them. In this time there has been no intimacy of any kind. I've been very responsible, I think. It feels like the weight has all been on me.
I have not meant to, but over the past few years I have grown closer and closer to one of my friends. A normal friend who my husband knows, but who I am very alike and who is just very kind -- a nice person. It's got to the point where I feel I love this friend. I don't feel I have to admit it (though I'm sure he knows), but should I? What should I do. It isn't just a sexual thing, more a feeling of deep compatibility and warmth. Does it mean I need to not see my friend any more? That would be a great loss for me. Has anyone worked out how to handle this sort of thing. I can hardly blame myself for it happening, as I see things have been objectively rotten for me at home, and I don't want to make any kind of big mess.
I don't want the advice to tell my husband, he is always cross and irrational, and I haven't acted on it. He hasn't been nice to me and I don't feel I owe him an explanation of something that is just a feeling.