How can I protect myself from daughter father

[Protectivemama0999]

Name changed for this as I don't want it linked to previous posts.
Fled domestic abuse last year with DD. We live in a confidential location, relocated several hours away from him. Currently going through court proceedings. DD has a warning marker on her medical records at GP and also with the Local Authority that no information is to be shared unless court ordered. Spoken to both the GP and LA and they said although he has PR, if the information endangers us both then it won't be shared. LA said they would advise I get a prohibited steps order when it comes to schools so he can only get redacted information..
I have a police marker on my house, a non molestation order that will expire next year. I have changed my numbers, my emails and have no social media.. He doesn't know where I work or where DD goes to childcare, both my work and her childcare establishment have a photo of him and know to immediately call the police if he's ever spotted.
What else can I do. There's been several threatening letters over the week from his solicitor about his entitlement to knowing where DD is. I've just picked up the phone to children's services and they assured no information whatsoever would be shared with him.
Is there anything else I can do in the interim whilst we're going through court proceedings. This person is a complete and utter psychopath, he will categorically end my life if he was ever in a room alone with me. He absolutely terrifies me, he's deeply affected my little girl also and I just wished he was dead :(

I'm so sorry you are in this situation. You maybe better getting this moved over to relationships section, you may get more advice from that board.

Report the letters to the police. He’s still harassing you, even if it’s done via a solicitor.

You need to be proactive here and make sure the police are aware of everything. That can’t help unless you tell them.

I know your old threads, I know it all seems so bleak at the minute, but you will come through this.

What does your solicitor say. If you are being harassed by his solicitor I would have thought there would be something they can do. Is all his harassment coming through your solicitor?

Really surprised a solicitor is allowed and prepared to harass you by proxy!

Yes I think I have guessed your previous posts too.
PP suggestion of reporting the solicitor for harassment to the police should shut them up for a bit. Intimidation on his part too perhaps? Not sure of the correct legal terms.

I think in reality though he is not going to go away until hopefully the court tells him to bugger off permanently. Can you start building up some funds incase you need to move again. Not ideal but might help you to know it is possible. Your employer should be able to help you jump now if needed by transferring you...

Take care lovely. It is a long road but you will get there in the end.

How are the solicitor's letters getting to you? Does the solicitor know your address?

Solicitors' letters just put what their client wants to say into fancy language - the solicitor will say whatever the client wants them to say. So yes, this is continuing harrassment.

This sounds so draining for you and your DD, I hope all comes right for you in the end, you have done everything you can reasonably do to protect yourself and DD from this monster.

I don't want the post linked to the others but yes.. Same.
Can I really report third party harassment via his solicitor though.. I would've thought he was allowed for his solicitor to send my solicitor threatening letters.

We'll move this over to Relationships now, @Protectivemama0999. Best wishes from MNHQ .

So sorry this is happening to you, OP.

Do you have an IDVA? If so, I think it would be an idea to tell them what's happening. And your solicitor, of course.

Some men really are a waste of oxygen.

I do have an idva. She's always on leave though.. And isn't the best. It's such an awful situation and I feel like a gun is being held to my head. My daughter yanked my hair at the weekend and I said no that's not kind and don't do that, she burst into tears and said she doesn't want to be horrible like her daddy :( it broke my heart. If I stop contact then I'll be the one who is made out as obstructive and alienating her, but whilst I take her, I don't feel like she is being kept safe. I feel like she's caught in this horrible crossfire and being used as a pawn. It's so horrible and I hate it :-(

I don’t think your daughter is missing out on having him in her life, she seems very young. I don’t think you’ve stated her age but I get the impression she’s primary age or younger and it seems she can already recognise he’s a wanker. He shouldn’t be allowed anywhere near her!
As far as protecting yourself goes I’m not too sure unfortunately, I know it’s an unpopular opinion but I don’t think this system does enough to protect woman in your predicament. Definitely not legal but if you think there’s anyway he could possibly find out where you live I know I’d have ‘defensive’ objects hidden around the house where I could get to them easily in panic.
All the best OP x

Actually go and speak with gp and school in person.

Do you work?

I do work yes. Fortunately in a very good sector for someone in this predicament. Just not sure what to do. Whilst I keep taking her.. Nothing is going to change.

You can talk to the authorities that have assisted you in al this, they will be able to advise.

And I would speak directly to school and gp. To convey the severity of the situation

My daughters HV did a home visit today. She asked DD about her father and DD got VERY upset :( started to say she was scared then hid behind me and wouldn't look up for ages :( The HV has said she's going to record the visit and that she strongly recommends I suspend the contact and take it back to court, both she and my daughters childcare will support me and provide any information.. I also had a visit from the police today.. I reported the solicitors letters to them yesterday as advised, and I also mentioned he had asked the contact centre to ask me for information on DD and messages were passed on from him through them.. The officer explained he's breached the non molestation order as it's contacting me indirectly.
I called social care for some advice today as I really don't know what to do. It's my decision to make, but it's a horrible decision.. But if I continue to take despite all of this. I could be saying I don't have a problem and that effectively she's safe, when she's not. What should I do??

Pretty certain you can contact via a solicitor even with a NMO but could never of and suspect contents of said comms is also highly relevant

That’s good news re the contact though and if professionals are willing g to substantiate this a court will take notice

Can the health visitor recommending that hold weight though, she witnessed it for her own eyes. My heart is breaking for DD. :(