I HATE my family

[PearlyRising]

I know that's a shocking thing to say but my mother glossed over hurting me a year and a half ago and has not acknowledged that she hurt me one in that time but has got my brother and father on her side. They're telling me I HURT HER. And I cannot reason with them. Just had a slanging match with my brother, he was supposedly the logical one but he cannot grasp the unfairness of the situation. She hurt me and that's dismissed by her/them as a grudge and yet the hurt I caused her, telling her that she hurt me, that's taken oh so so so seriously and affected her health.

I have tried so hard to let it go and I can't. I hate them. I hate them.

So so so furious. I know i sound like a toddler but I cannot deal with this illogical bullshit.

@ljsbear this is true, that does describe me. You put it v well.

You don’t need their approval. You are still in the FOG, reading your posts. Even if your not so dm apologised, it wouldn’t be truthful, honest or worth it, she’d still think the same. The only way to resolve the feelings is to withdraw contact, have it on your terms, but seriously, I think you’d be better without them in your life.

I texted my aunt today to thank her for a congratulations card & money she sent my dd. My aunt didnt respond which is unusual. I know my mother has drawn another recruit in to her cabal.

Every time she hurts me i feel more hurt but also clearer. It has just been rapid machine gun fire, one wound after another.

As @ljsbear said, the problem is that i seem to need them to be decent and respectful to me.

I have to not need that.
Just see them for who they are and not need communication, empathy or respect.

Sadly you cannot reason with stupid.