I think there is something wrong with us as human beings if we can get so intimate and close to have sex with someone, but not even want to wake up with them the next morning.
I've not said anywhere that I don't want to wake up with them the next morning as such. It's more that I don't want to spend the whole night with them if you see what I mean, at least relatively early in a relationship. There's nothing 'wrong' with me, I just need a breather after a while.
It's not about me only being interested in sex at all, which people seem to be interpreting it as. You can have a lovely romantic evening and make luurve, then a while after that and tea/coffee or whatever the person heads off. Then you hopefully arrange to meet up fairly soon.
But I can't imagine being comfortable enough to let someone see my naked and stick their dick in me but not being comfortable then just hanging around with them for a few hours after/sleeping next to them
How long does sex last (in your 40s. 
) vs. how long does them staying the night last? How much conversation do yo have to make during sex?
They're not just some 'house guest' like a distant family member come to do the polite, maybe slightly forced, visit and catch up
@goawaystormy No, they're not a distant family member, who I will presumably know or have known about to some extent for most of my life. They're a random I've only met a few times. Even if they're adorable and I fall desparately in love, it'll still take a few times more of seeing them to feel in any way slightly more relaxed around them.
Most of my first shags with new people have been when I’ve met them on a night out, so it’s been extremely late by the time we’ve got back to whoever’s house. I wouldn’t appreciate being kicked out at 4am
@SukonthaM I think that's different as you haven't been there long yet. And your probably both knackered, maybe a bit pissed etc so it'll be actual sleep-sleep.
If I didn't like someone enough to have them stay the night
@leavesthataregreen It's not a matter of disliking them.