Hi everyone,
This is a last resort I guess and it’s hard to talk about. I have been in a relationship with my partner for nearly 3 years and I have tried to leave him twice. But we got back together both times. I tell my friends and family the way that he treats me, they always tell me that he is emotionally abusive - and that I don’t see it because I’m too involved so I am reaching out to you guys to see what your thoughts are.
His behaviour is very questionable. It always seems to be his way or no way. He has treated me badly over the past few years. He tried to sleep with my best friend and I have caught him talking to other girls on a number of occasions, he tells me that I am paranoid and that I need to forgive him and let it go so we can move on and be happy together. He lies to me a lot, and when I catch him out he constantly asks me if I am still in love with him. Recently we have started saving for a house deposit and he refuses to put the money in a joint account because he gets a better interest rate. He said if I ever left him I wouldn’t see any of the money.
On top of the above he always says that I don’t love him enough and he thinks I’m going to leave him. It’s like he is constantly looking for reassurance all the time.
The first time we split up he harassed me for months after to the point where I had to report it to the police.
I often question whether he is actually emotionally abusive towards me or whether I’m just very unhappy in the relationship and won’t leave because I’m a bit of a people pleaser and I have trouble saying no to people. Also have a bit of a problem when it comes to letting things go.
Help !
Thank you,
LD