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Friends jealous

116 replies

Sengland01 · 24/08/2021 15:14

I have a business and have worked my ass off for 4 months since leaving my partner. I put up a picture of my new car and my best friend didn't even send a message back. Don't know what to think. One friend replied and she didn't. Not sure I should of said anything now but i was so happy to get it with working 12 hour days etc. I feel I am moving up and she doesn't like it. Any advice please.

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DaddyCool60 · 24/08/2021 15:54

I've got a very upmarket/flash sportscar. Never have and never will show it off on social media. People who show of new cars do come off look naff (IMO)

huuskymam · 24/08/2021 15:55

So because she didn't comment on a pic of your new car you think she's jealous? Maybe she just doesn't give a flying fuck about a car. I wouldn't comment on it, and certainly wouldn't care who gets a new car.

ZeldaPrincessOfHyrule · 24/08/2021 15:55

I feel like I've read this before...

It doesn't sound like jealousy, it sounds like understandable indifference to a picture of a car on SM. I wouldn't comment either Hmm

BillMasheen · 24/08/2021 15:57

Thing is, given a huge percentage of new car ‘sales’ are now PCP or lease, you wouldn’t necessarily assume that someone with a new car would have put a lot of effort into getting it.

Ughmaybenot · 24/08/2021 15:59

I adore my friends but I literally couldn’t give a shit about what they drive… but then, they wouldn’t be posting photos hoping for likes on them either 😬

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 24/08/2021 16:09

I feel for you, I largely gave up with SM after I posted a selfie where one could clearly see an v. expensive pair of shoes on the window cill behind me and no one commented on them. I was even casually pointing at them with my Nan's walking stick. I think they were all jealous as no one else had a pair like them in my class.

Darthwader · 24/08/2021 16:09

I don't think there is anything wrong with sharing your good news with your friends. If you can't tell your friends things that make you happy then what can you do?
Did you write an annoying message with the picture of the car? Did you write something similar to your OP about how it was the fruits of working hard? If you did that may have irritated her as it has everyone on here. It doesn't mean she is jealous, just irritated.
It is OK to be happy about getting something you had really wanted like a new car and to tell your friends about it but your OP reads a little like you think you deserve it more than she would because of all your hard work.

Aquamarine1029 · 24/08/2021 16:12

@TwoLeftSocksWithHoles

I feel for you, I largely gave up with SM after I posted a selfie where one could clearly see an v. expensive pair of shoes on the window cill behind me and no one commented on them. I was even casually pointing at them with my Nan's walking stick. I think they were all jealous as no one else had a pair like them in my class.
Nan's walking stick 🤣🤣🤣
Howshouldibehave · 24/08/2021 16:18

@TwoLeftSocksWithHoles

I feel for you, I largely gave up with SM after I posted a selfie where one could clearly see an v. expensive pair of shoes on the window cill behind me and no one commented on them. I was even casually pointing at them with my Nan's walking stick. I think they were all jealous as no one else had a pair like them in my class.
WTF Grin
WTFisNext · 24/08/2021 16:19

I genuinely couldn't care less what my friends drive as long as it's safe and roadworthy, it wouldn't occur to me to congratulate them on purchasing a new mode of transportation.

If my friends thought I was jealous for failing to congratulate them on a new mode of transport I'd honestly start backing off from them and would quietly judge them

Wilmaa · 24/08/2021 16:20

Well done on your success but I don't give a crap who drives what either

Hekatestorch · 24/08/2021 16:21

To be fair, I would be absolutely baffled that someone bought a new flash car within 4 months of starting to run a business.

Its really not good business or financial sense.

But well done you.

grapewine · 24/08/2021 16:24

Good for you. Genuinely.

People don't care about your new car though. Doesn't mean they're jealous.

cooroocoocoo · 24/08/2021 16:45

It is difficult to judge without knowing the dynamics of your friendship.

If you are constantly posting on SM and commenting on each other's uploads, then you may be right that there is a change in behaviour in your friend. Although it could be something else than jealousy.

Mindyourbusiness22 · 24/08/2021 17:05

What sort of response were you expecting? Why should she care? And what do you mean you put it up, put it up where?

Congrats on your business doing well, you should be proud of your own efforts, don’t rely on others to feel the same as you. We all have shit going on.

MiddleParking · 24/08/2021 17:07

I had similar with my new tumble dryer. Haters gonna hate.

AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 24/08/2021 17:10

If you do MLM, it’s very likely that she’s hidden you from her timeline or muted you so hasn’t even seen it.

ActonSquirrel · 24/08/2021 17:14

You bought a car with money you earned. I could do that tomorrow. I don't as I live in London and don't need a car.

Where is the jealously from friends? It's only a car. Most people have one these days it's hardly an achievement

godmum56 · 24/08/2021 17:18

@Horriblewoman

I'm all for celebrating friend's successes, but them getting a new car wouldn't even register on my radar as something to recognise.
this
Bbub · 24/08/2021 17:21

@MiddleParking

I had similar with my new tumble dryer. Haters gonna hate.
😂😂😂😂
ActonSquirrel · 24/08/2021 17:23

I mean if a friend told me she had worked really hard and was buying a new car and it meant so much to her to be able to have this I would say something.

A random picture of a car with no context. I wouldn't say anything either.

unfortunateevents · 24/08/2021 17:23

I deliberately make a point of not responding to posts like that on SM!

BeachDrifting · 24/08/2021 17:23

What a bizarre post

Mybestgirl · 24/08/2021 17:25

Good luck with your new car. I would’ve said it was lovely, and given it no more thought. I drive but I have absolutely no interest in cars, I don’t know one from another and I’m not impressed by any of them, gas guzzlers, sporty models etc. Only you know your friend though…

Clymene · 24/08/2021 17:27

I don't respond to boasting about making money either.