Pregnant and found out my boyfriend has lied to me

[ehkp]

I have been with my boyfriend just over two years I am 16 weeks pregnant and only just found out that when we was two months into our relationship and had fallen out he had messaged my sister behind my back flirting and chatting her up my sister never told me or showed me these messages and my family new this and have only just chose to tell me now which I find wrong and now don't want to talk to any of them but they are saying they didn't want to hurt me but we wasn't far into our relationship and I could of walked way and been in a better place than I am now today, I never thought anything like this would happen to me I love him so much and we have come a long way in over two years but since I confronted him he has not been in contact with me and I feel he dosnt care but not sure if this is down to shame or guilt the fact my sister and family have kept this from me and him also all of them living a lie to me has truly broken me I feel I have nobody and I don't no what to do I havnt contacted him either as I just want him to show me he cares but right now I don't no his reason for no contact I feel hurt he has built a life with me and known what he has done we have spent so much time around my sister and none of them have ever told me and im finding it so hard to cope with the situation? Do I throw over two years of our relationship away and become a single mum for something that happened at the start or do I try and work through this in time.. ?

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So sorry to hear this. Why did your sister choose to tell you this now?! Two months in really isn’t that long - it’s a crap thing he did, but I’d be more upset by my sister and family keeping this from me!

I would be concerned by his behaviour though - every time you have a fall out will he go to another woman to stroke his ego? You need to have a proper sit down and talk with him about this. He needs to understand that if he does this again that would be it. If your relationship is otherwise fantastic and you are happy and you trust him, I would try to move on, but I’d only give him ONE chance.

Good luck with whatever you choose to do.

Yes the timing of this is highly suspicious ... and cannot be ignored...

as the previous posts says... Why tell you this now ? the time to tell you is long past.. are they trying to ensure you end the relationship and split up ?

There's something very toxic about this entire situation.. do not be surprised if more 'revelations' come out ..

Do you want to end this relationship 🌸

If your relationship is otherwise fantastic and you are happy and you trust him, I would try to move on, but I’d only give him ONE chance.

Agreed 🌸

What? They decide to tell you now you are pregnant? But kept it secret all that time.. thats really terrible.. i personally would cut them out and give him hell for a while and see how much he is willing to try