What would you do if your partner took his ex’s side and did not defend you?

[Lolabray]

To me loyalty to your partner should be first and foremost. The above has happened to me but I don’t want to go into it on here. I feel let down hurt and disrespected. The relationship has now ended because of this and a few other issues.

@Batshittery

spongedod I saw your comment and didn't think it was bitchy or nasty. Don't let it bother you

Thank you.

I agree with Batshittery

Am incredibly surprised that MNHQ have taken that down. Very strange moderating. If the bar has changed that much, then there will need to be a LOT of posts taken down.

It's still impossible to answer given the details you have provided. You say lies have been made up but not what has happened as a result - what you wanted from your ex p or what he did or didn't do. We're the lies serious or petty and best ignored? If you didn't want to discuss it on the internet, I'm not sure why you did so? Bit confusing.

@spongedod

I actually need to clarify that I was not nasty at all. It's really bothered me that you have written that and no one can see the deleted post so will assume I was nasty.

I was trying to point out that you are not helping yourself by being so secretive.

Exactly this, when the comments removed it immediately reflects negatively on the poster. Your asking people to comment on an issue without sufficient content. Without out it there are 3 sides to the story yours, your ex partners and somewhere within that the Truth.

In general of course your partner should be loyal to you not their ex.

As others said, the partner should support who is in the right. Loyalty doesn’t come into it. You think you were in the right, he feels she was. There’s no way round it.

Generally if your partner supports their ex over you, and it's not contact with children related, it'll be because you're in the wrong.

I actually value my partners integrity and often ask his opinion on things, including being a sounding board for my opinions/thoughts/feelings. If I felt he was just going to agree with me without question, there would be no point in me doing so and the trust would be gone. If he could lie to my face and say I was right if that's not what he thought, what else could he lie to me about?

Trust is important to me, not thinking im right all the time

In public yes they should side with you, but nothing wrong with telling you in private if they actually don't.