What would you do if your partner took his ex’s side and did not defend you?

[Lolabray]

To me loyalty to your partner should be first and foremost. The above has happened to me but I don’t want to go into it on here. I feel let down hurt and disrespected. The relationship has now ended because of this and a few other issues.

I don't get the point of this thread? Did you want to talk about it because you're saying you don't?

@YoBeaches no not really . Just wondered

It's over, regardless. Either your partner and their ex are justified, in which case the relationship is doomed or they're not, in which case the relationship is doomed.

And reading on, it's doomed. You don't need this in your life.

@PickAChew you hit the nail on the head there

OP what are you 'just wondering' because no one can answer the question without knowing the situation?

I hate these cryptic threads. There's no way of answering with zero information.

@Lolabray

To me loyalty to your partner should be first and foremost. The above has happened to me but I don’t want to go into it on here. I feel let down hurt and disrespected. The relationship has now ended because of this and a few other issues.

complete nonsense post - what difference does it make who you are? What matters is the issue itself. YOur partner should weigh up the different sides of the dispute, and make a decision based on the actual dispute.

No, absolutely should not make a decision based on what their partner does.

What if the partner is doing or saying something stupid,/dangerous/ignornat/unfair, etc.

No one should automatically support their partner when their partner is wrong!

Not much point to the thread if you don't want to give sufficient details

@Batshittery

Not much point to the thread if you don't want to give sufficient details

Literally no point.

Ok sorry I’m a Shitty person but I am not spilling my life story on the internet for potentially people to see! And it’s not meant to be cryptic. It was a simple question but it doesn’t matter now. Thanks

No one should automatically support their partner when their partner is wrong!

Exactly why I am posting here to get other peoples perspectives

@Luannee

Completely depends what the issue is.

I don't think a partner should always have to take your side. They're entitled to their own opinion.

This ^

I would argue / defend what I believed to be 'right' , not argue something I didn't agree with because I was going out with someone or related to someone.

Don't think you grasp how mumsnet works op.

I don't expect my husband to support me no matter what. I expect him to be the person to tell me if I'm in the wrong!

@ spongedod what a bitchy nasty comment

@Lolabray

@ spongedod what a bitchy nasty comment

I don't think it was tbh and I'm surprised MNHQ took it down. I only said he may have been right. And that's true because you didn't give any context. I'm not the only person to have said so.

I didn't think it was bitchy?

I actually need to clarify that I was not nasty at all. It's really bothered me that you have written that and no one can see the deleted post so will assume I was nasty.

I was trying to point out that you are not helping yourself by being so secretive.

@JanisJ

I didn't think it was bitchy?

Cross posted with you.

Thank you.

Sometimes supporting someone is telling them that they are wrong but you love them anyway.

It must be very hurtful if he's supporting his ex and they are both saying you are wrong. Obviously only you know whether they are right here but I agree that the best thing to do is to split up now.

In the Stacey Solomon case he should have said to her, Stacey you have behaved like a knob. Let's look at how you can resolve this.

If there are children involved, loyalty can easily be divided. Good co parents will always have some degree of loyalty to the person who they created children with, even if there are new partners.

spongedod I saw your comment and didn't think it was bitchy or nasty. Don't let it bother you