New man & facebook

[Sparksflying]

I started seeing someone a few weeks ago. He was a friend from many years ago so definitely not a stranger. I just said something about adding him as a friend on Facebook and he wasn’t keen on the idea. He’s still has his ex on there and is still good friends with her (they chat and meet sometimes) and his friendship didn’t bother me at all. Just feels a bit strange that he’s not comfortable adding me. Probably sounds a bit silly but I’m quite wary with new relationships.

Well now, on the one hand you say there should be no harm in adding you as a friend, but then on the other, you like to use it as extra security - which implies you would be FB stalking for info. Totally wrong to get the hump about it after 2 dates. He may well want to vet you the more usual way, by getting to know you, before he makes you a friend. It's somewhat unrealistic and demanding of you to expect it at this stage.

2 dates is too soon and I'm a FB addict!

I wouldn't add someone I was seeing casually either

It's weird that sex after two dates isn't seen as too soon, but adding someone on FB is.

@AlbertBridge who said anything about having sex?

You can definitely take a step back.

Continue to date him and see what he's truly like but leave the physical stuff off the table for now.

@Sparksflying

You did, I thought?

It’s just a bit uncomfortable that he clearly doesn’t want me as a friend on there yet is happy to be physically close to me 😟

@RantyAunty perfect advice , thanks 💐

I didnt feel comfortable adding my DP for at least 6 months.

I'm a private person.

[quote Sparksflying]@RantyAunty perfect advice , thanks 💐[/quote]
Best wishes.