Is a sexless marriage possible long term?

[Morethanthis71]

I suppose having recently turned 50 has prompted me to ask this question. Married 22 years and no intimacy on any level for the past 12 years, since my 11 year old was conceived. Husband is also 50, no known medical conditions. We have three children but he has always been very ambivalent towards sex. I was his first partner.
I don't think I can go on with this lack of love or feeling cherished in my life. I would consider myself attractive, certainly my friends day I am beautiful and I look after myself. I am a size 12/14 but fit and healthy.
Do people stay together because it's just easier to? He is a good Dad to our 3 children. We have paid off our mortgage, I have about 2k savings, he has more partly due to an inheritance, but part of me thinks I should try to save 10k before I start divorce proceedings. Over the years I have given up having the conversation about sex, I get absolutely nowhere. He has no interest in sex or intimacy at all and I do believe he would be the same if he were married to someone anyone else. I feel as if he only ever had sex with me, after the initial heady days when we first met, to create our children.
Is emotional neglect grounds for divorce?
He doesn't even write my name on the envelope of cards. I know that sounds pathetic but I feel as if he has ni connection with me at all.

@Morethanthis71

Thanks TheWatersofMarch. He does say that, because I tell him every time that it drives me mad. What drives me even madder is the fact he never uses my name when he's speaking to me. I don't always know that he's talking to me. He's got me stored as 'wife' on his phone, which I also think is impersonal. Perhaps I'm just over sensitive but it's when it's all combined, I feel completely invisible.

Errr what does he use as a name for you then????

I'm highly sceptical of men who call their partners 'the wife'. Does he do that too? If he does it's bad sign. It tends to be a certain type of man who does this - often chauvinistic or sexist.

I certainly feel invisible. About 7 years ago I went on a fitness kick and got down from a size 16 to a very lean size 10. Not once did he comment. Friends couldn't believe that he wasn't full of compliments for my achievement, but I genuinely feel that he didn't notice. He never comments on hair cuts unless I ask what he thinks, new clothes, etc. Now I'm feeing even more invisible sad

Get a divorce.

But don't leave the house. Get a good solicitor who will get you a settlement that will give you choices.

At 50 (like me!) you definitely have time to find someone who will care for you, and vice versa.