Best friend

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Is your other half your best friend? Does that actually happen in relationships ?

It's a weird one. I wouldn't call him my best friend as such; I have my best friends who I've known since I was a child. But he's definitely the person I'm closest to... I tell him more than anyone, want to spend time with him more than anyone, and I'm not intimate with my best friends which is obviously a big difference.

See my best mate her oh is her best mate too they literally do everything together to point I don't really see her now .
I'm like okay why don't me and my oh feel like that or do that .

I remember as a child asking my mum who her best friend was and she replied my dad was. Just couldn't get my head around it! But actually my dh is the person l can tell pretty much anything to with no judgement and he is always on my side.
Friends are so important to me but he brings so much more than friendship to my life although l guess it helps that we were friends before we got together.
So actually now l would say yes he is my best friend.

I would say so. He's the person I can tell anything to with no judgment, he's there whenever I need him and will drop anything to be there.
We have fun together, laugh together and are completely comfortable around each other even when just sitting in complete silence. We were good friends before we properly got together so I don't think being in a relationship changed that it just added a new dynamic.

Yes. No question. We have the same sense of humour, very open and supportive of each other. We have the most fun when we're together. We were lucky our paths crossed.

My DW was definitely my best friend. I could tell her anything, and we absolutely loved each others company.

For many people their OH will be their BF

I would say that your OH should be unique

Yes he is my BF. We were friends before we got together. I love him very much but I also really LIKE him as a person. He’s the one I tell everything to and the one I laugh with and trust the most.

Absolutely yes. When the kids ask who our best friends are, we always say each other and they're like

Yes he is. As my good friends all settled into married life and had children, it wasn't easy doing friend stuff as we were all too busy especially with young children. We could only speak briefly on the phone or quick meet ups. DH became my person for gossip, comfort, etc , he filled the role my best friends did. Now all our kids are older and friendships are back to pre DC levels, I find that I still like having DH as a best friend.

My DH is my best friend. I just love being around him, can tell him anything and we're both a bit odd so we suit each other like no one else does.

Do u do everything together or have loads in common ?

Definitely. My husband is my favourite person. Spend 99% of our free time together.

Yep mine is, although I have two best friends really - my husband and my childhood best friend.

No. He's my husband. It's a completely different relationship to a friendship.

It involves friendship, but it's different from friendship.

Friendship is an ingredient rather than the finished dish, iyswim.

I know I'm not explaining myself well.

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OP - don’t worry, I’m similar to you. I adore my DH. He is my emotional rock and I can tell him anything, but we do have some different interests (eg. different types of film/theatre). Luckily I have a female BF who enjoys the same things as me and so I go out a lot with her.

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OP - don’t worry, I’m similar to you. I adore my DH. He is my emotional rock and I can tell him anything, but we do have some different interests (eg. different types of film/theatre). Luckily I have a female BF who enjoys the same things as me and so I go out a lot with her.

Thank u I was little worried that our relationship is not like my mates or others I see . We don't really have much in common tho which makes me little sad when I see how much other couples do . We like movies and thats prop it lol . Im a very outgoing person he more chilled stay at home . Sadly as I said in op my best friend I dont really see her now , I didnt much before covid but now feel like we even further apart only Saw her once this year and that was for couple hours . So I think I am missing that mate where I can do things with but I dont know how to get it back to be honest she very happy just being with her partner.

I think they’re separate things OP. Your friend wanting to spend all her time with her DH to the extent of not seeing friends, to me isn’t healthy. Your DH can be your best friend without needing to destroy other friendships.

To be honest she wasn't always up for doing much before covid but i could of least got her to go out least once month since then they have gotten really close to point she never wants to do anything now with me

Yes! Best friend and soulmate.

Yes, definitely class him as my best friend. We have the same sense of humour & outlook. We just love spending time with each other. Married 26 years as of yesterday.

OP - I’m so sorry to hear that. As I’ve got older I’ve realised that most friends will come and go. Some will stay for a particular period of your life. It was a tough thing to come to terms with. Now that things are starting to open up again is there a club or activity you can join to meet some new like-minded people?

Nope, definitely not and sometimes I feel a bit sad about it but mostly not. I have plenty of very good friends and a clutch of exceptional ones so I don't feel I miss out on friendship, its just sometimes I think it might be nice to feel that fun at home. On the other hand my DH never looks to curtail the time I spend with others, I have a lot of freedom and on balance I prefer the independence it gives me. I often go away on my own to see other people and holiday with friends on my own who share common interests. I may phone him to check in but not because I miss him. The more I write the more I realise this probably sounds a bit odd as far as marriage goes.....maybe I need to start a thread of my own

No. I don't shag my best friend, or friends. A partner is not a 'friend' it's different

Definitely think I need to get a new mate , missing that friendship group