I've been married 5 years, we have a 3yo son and I'm 29 weeks pregnant.
Almost a year ago exactly my DH and I were going through a rough patch and I was honestly considering leaving. I posted on mumsnet and laid out my problems/feelings and asked for advice. Only one person replied and suggested couples therapy, anyway.. a week or so afterwards I got home from work and found my inbox open on our (shared) laptop and I checked the history and saw a bunch of my emails had been read at 1pm and my username searched on MN and all of my threads read. It was obviously my husband. I asked him about it, he denied it at first but then admitted it when I showed him the history, whats worse is that he made out I was in the wrong for posting about him on an (anonymous!) forum on the internet! If he'd asked me, I would have told/showed him! We had a big fight, we spoke a lot about trust and managed to put it behind us, but I made it clear that I won't abide by being snooped on, its a big nono and a relationship ender for me.
Since then, we've had ups and downs and about a month ago we hit another low patch and I started looking at separation options. We decided to work through it and get some therapy, plus we want to stay together and be a proper family for our new baby and our son.
Today I've come home from work and had a facebook alert about someone trying to log in as me at 12pm. I have just opened my laptop and guess what, emails open, mumsnet threads read, twitter messages read - all between 12.30-4pm today, when I was at work and he was at home looking after DS.
I am so pissed off. I haven't said anything because I'm not sure what to do. I feel like thats it, he's fucked it all. But I'm pregnant and emotional and I feel really vulnerable. Leaving now is a big ask. What would you do?