Hi, I don’t usually write in things like this but I’m at a point where I am desperate for some advice as I am too embarrassed to turn to friends. Without going on too much, the backstory is I have a toddler with my partner, and ever since having DS, my partner has been desperate for another child. He is not the best of fathers, but he does go to work 6 days a week to pay our mortgage & bills, so I guess I can’t expect him to do both.
After finally giving into having another child, things have gone down hill drastically. Firstly we decided to sell our two door cars and buy a more expensive bigger car. Unfortunately this car could only go in one of our names, and although we pay half monthly, it made sense to put the car in his name as he is the bread winner. He also has his own van that he mostly uses, and I use the car. Because the car is in his name, he feels as though he can take it away from me whenever he pleases and claims it as his. On occasions he has locked me out of the house and I have had to sleep in the car, whilst being pregnant. This has happened twice in the last couple of weeks. Because he pays the bills, he claims the house as ‘his’. Although we both own it.
Recently he purchased a dog, although I dislike dogs I gave into him because I am soft. The dog has caused nothing but trouble since day one. He is huge, so constantly knocks my toddler over. He has been with us near enough 6 months and he is now around 11 months old but continues to urinate all over the house. A few nights ago I came down stairs and slipped and fell into his urine and ended up taking a trip to the hospital to get baby checked over 
as we are renovating the house the garden it currently unavailable to use, to it is a case of taking the dog out every hour onto the street, which my partner usually refuses to do. He allows the dog in my bed, to which he ruins as he is smelly & moults terribly, even after discussing this with my partner and crying my eyes out, he does not respect me enough to listen.
He purchases whatever he pleases, the most recent purchase being a motorbike which cost thousands, and now he will be out on that every Saturday all day with his friends. When he comes home, he proceeds to play on his Xbox.
Since becoming pregnant again I have been suffering with severe sickness and fatigue, to which my partner tells me I’m lazy. He refuses to help around the house as he believes it’s a woman’s job, and because I only work 3 times a week it’s down to me to look after our son, and keep on top of everything. Bare in mind, the house has been undergoing renovation for 2 years, so we are living off one level. The kitchen & living room is non existent and by the looks of things he can’t be bothered to finish it 😢
I have very little family, and no where to actually go with my little boy when things go wrong. At the moment it’s a case of keeping my mouth shut or I’ll get thrown out. I’m devastated to be brining another child into this mess 💔
I have spoke to his mother, but she can’t see no wrong in her son so it’s no use 😢 I’m hoping someone can offer some advice as I’m feeling really low right now
Thank you for reading x