So i'll start off by saying that I've only had 2 relationships, the first I left by fleeing to a refuge, and the 2nd break up was almost heading the same way, so I've never actually done a 'normal' break up.
I started dating this guy in February this year, then we became official around 2 months later, so around 6 months tops. Things went well through the dating stage, he seemed to share the same interests, we both chose date ideas and locations, he was in a hurry for us to become a couple and I put this down to him never having a relationship before and the excitement of us both seeming to be on the same page for everything.
But since we became a couple he's stopped making any effort, we only go out if I plan it, other wise we stay at mine and he sits drumming his fingers and sighing. I've tried to get him to book/plan for things or come up with ideas but he can't as he's too worried he'll get it wrong and I won't enjoy it, even if I offer tonnes of reassurance, basically I sort it or it doesn't happen. On top of this there's lots of mental/emotional red flags popping up and long story short i want out.
Like I said I haven't really properly broken up with someone before so I've tried to do some research but im not really sure on the best way to do it.
I can't phone him, we only text, I tried to phone him once and he claims he went into meltdown thinking something was terribly wrong. I have to stick with his text style of he 'worries' and 'assumes the worst'.
So meet up in person? He lives with his family so I can't go there. I don't want to do it at my place. We're just under an hours drive from each other and in his opinion meeting up for a coffee is strange as we should want to spend as much time together as possible, so asking to meet at a coffee shop or even a service station half way will prove tricky.
The 3rd thing is if we plan to go anywhere then he has to come to mine first, and then travel together. Even if the place we are heading to is equal distance or closer to his, to me this doesn't make sense and this has caused arguments and I end up feeling guilty like I'm in the wrong for not wanting to muck about.
I'm probably over thinking this but If you were in my shoes how would you end it please?