Since ive been with my gf, she has been continuously bringing my ex up and comparing our relationships! Before we even got together she asked me loads of questions about my relationship with ex (under the guise of just wanting to know what kind of a man I am in a relationship etc) and now brings it up constantly!
Example - 'You obviously dont love me as much as you did ex as you used to spend lots of time with her on the phone and you dont with me'. How ridiculous is this? my relationship with ex was 5 years ago!
Example - 'You used to buy ex way more expensive gifts than you do me, are you sure you love me'.
and the worst - 'you must still be in love with ex as you moped around after your breakup, hope Im not a rebound.'
I know I made the mistake of telling her little things here and there about previous relationship when she asked but I had no idea she would use it against me.
She seems very insecure. my gf is the most attractive woman ive ever been with and she has no reason at all to feel insecure. I make her feel loved and have not done anything to make her think or believe I have feelings for an ex who I was in a relationship with ages ago! She did some snooping on Facebook and found the ex and delightfully told me 'you were the way more attractive one in that relationship!'. she constantly asks me who I find more attractive her or ex, whose body I like better etc. I am getting fed up of her.
to shut her up I said to her 'ive never thought of ex more than I have recently due to you constantly bringing her up'. and she didn't like that but CONTINUED!
the ironic thing is that, whilst ive not even spoke or have feelings for ex, my gf was busy talking to her own ex at the start of our relationship when we had a few hiccups. we got past this. at times she brings her own ex up which frustrates me. an example was I told her about an activity near her house which we can do and she said 'oh my ex used to love doing those kinds of things, he would have loved that'. I pulled her up on it and said imagine if this happened in the reverse order you would have gone bezerk and she said it just slipped out.
I just Dont Know why she acts like this. she acts as though she's the only woman I should have ever loved. I have spoken to her about this time and time again, she says sorry but will start a few hours later.
im beginning to think that maybe she is toxic. her life revolves around her looking good and being the best at everything. when she doesn't act like this, im really happy with her and ive never had this strong feelings for a woman before but im just feeling so drained from it all