Girlfriend being very unreasonable

[Lostfound21]

Hi,

On Saturday night I went for a drink in my town since Feb 2020. I met one friend who was home for the weekend and two friends who live in the town who I hadn't had a drink with in 18 months. Since Covid started this was the third time I had met some of my male friends without my girlfriend. I said she was welcome to come in Saturday but she said no and so I went in met my friends had a few drinks and waked home (we live separately). I had also told my girlfriend I was going to bring her into town for dinner and drinks the following night also.

All hell broke loose and she sent me messages giving out about me wanting to be one of the lads and that most men grow put of it by their 30s.and no woman would put up with it. I'm 46:and she is 37. It's the third time I've met my friends in 18 months and even before covid I only met them 3/4 times a year and I always ask my girlfriend if she wants to join us
She meets her friends for dinner and drinks occasionally and always tells me it's girls only and I'm not invited. It's not like we never do anything. In the last 2 months we have been on a week's holiday in a costal resort, been to Vienna for a weekend, been for dinner and drinks in a town nearby and had an extended sunday lunch with drinks in a gastro pub in her village and were going for dinner in my town last night before all hell broke loose.

I don't think I've done anything wrong but she is tearing strips off me since for meeting my friends

@ZestyMaximus
I'm so glad you said all that ...
I'm still speechless

@ElizabethChin

Hey Lostfound21, this behavior certainly seems unreasonable, but you have to understand where she is coming from. Most likely she cares about you so much that she doesn’t want to share you with anyone, including your friends. Do you know how to tell that your girl hates you? It’s simple: she doesn’t answer your calls, doesn’t care where you are, what you’re doing, and so on. Do you know how to tell if she cares about you? She pulls off tricks like this one, gets jealous, and, of course, becomes unreasonable. You should definitely understand that she is motivated by love. Let me recommend you this article calmerry.com/blog/relations/think-your-girlfriend-hates-you-learn-the-reasons-why, where you can find more information on this matter. In the meantime, try to discuss with her why she feels that way. I wish you all the best!

What absolute, utter bollocks.

This is similar to telling girls that boys are mean to them because they like them, as if it excuses the meanness. It doesn't.

Ditto with jealous, controlling behaviour like OP's ex showed. Thank god he binned her off instead of listening to the sort of advice you've just shared.

If someone is abusive 'because they really like / want you' they are still abusive!!!

Hey Lostfound21, this behavior certainly seems unreasonable, but you have to understand where she is coming from. Most likely she cares about you so much that she doesn’t want to share you with anyone, including your friends. Do you know how to tell that your girl hates you? It’s simple: she doesn’t answer your calls, doesn’t care where you are, what you’re doing, and so on. Do you know how to tell if she cares about you? She pulls off tricks like this one, gets jealous, and, of course, becomes unreasonable. You should definitely understand that she is motivated by love. Let me recommend you this article calmerry.com/blog/relations/think-your-girlfriend-hates-you-learn-the-reasons-why, where you can find more information on this matter. In the meantime, try to discuss with her why she feels that way. I wish you all the best!

Nooooo please ignore this.
I love my partner so blinking much...hence me wanting him to go out with his mates, get drunk, chat crap and have a good time.

Anybody who stops you being you or doing what you want is not love. It is an unhealthy need to feel loved and in control.
No no OP. Please ignore that response...
@ElizabethChin I hope that isn't what you believe. If it is. You should address your relationship if you are in one, whether this is what u feel your partner is doing to you or what you are doing to your partner.

@Lostfound21 ...
Is your girlfriend called Elizabeth by any chance ?

She wants you step up as a father? WTF? They are not your children and it’s not your responsibility that their father is not in their life.

Walk away.

@ElizabethChin

So somebody traps you and stops you seeing your friends "because they love you sooo much"

Mother of god, I despair 🙄