Do I just accept it as it genuinely is best for DD? Would welcome your thoughts.

[Babymeanswashing]

DD was born very end of November so right in between lockdown 2 and 3. I’m now looking at back to work, and although we’ve done lots of coffee and baby classes and activities I’m still conscious she just hasn’t seen a wide range of faces and spaces yet.

So she’s in nursery FT. Originally the plan was to have her in the last 2 weeks of august part time. This was so I could get some work done (I’m a teacher) and gently transition her. Only this now isn’t happening, DP has suggested that he takes the first 2 weeks of September off and picks her up early so she isn’t doing those full days immediately.

DP has been WFH for ages and it’s fine but I actually feel so jealous that he’ll have two weeks in a quiet empty house and can do whatever he wants … sleep and read and watch whatever he wants and listen to loud music …

I’m being horribly petty I think but it feels unfair even though It’s not!

Seems mad to waste so much leave he will need it to cover sickness/isolation. Could he do half days?
If you are craving alone time then DH and baby can go out for day or you go out alone in holidays.
If it works for you to put DD in nursery some hols do it.

Could DD not go into nursery full time?
That way on half terms etc she can go afew days? You don't have to send her in everyday but you'll know your getting some time.
Can DP go into the office afew days a week?

@Babymeanswashing

I don’t really want that though, I think that would feel very wrong - I wouldn’t like it and I think I’d get a lot of judgement tbh.

The nursery have two options, term time only and 50% payment with 50% attendance. I’d like the latter but tbh even if I went for that I’d still have the problem of lack of downtime at home! So maybe that’s the issue really! It’s sometimes really hard to know what it is, you feel a bit weird about something but hard to explain exactly what it is.

Judgement from who? And why do you care. It is OK to need/want some downtime.

If he has a lot of leave I don’t get why he can’t take some. Teachers get 13 weeks a year and he doesn’t expect you to find work on those weeks as it’s your holiday.
Why not just do the planned work in the evenings or when baby naps rather than two full weeks at the end of the holidays. Do you really need to work then..