Girlfriend going away with ex boyfriend

[Pricey1976]

I have been with my girlfriend for just over 5 months , a couple of weeks ago she went to a wedding with her ex boyfriend which involved a two night stay , I had to accept this because it was arranged before we met , now she tells me they are planning a weekend away with friends from the weather, I told her this is unreasonable, total disrespect to me and it should be me going not her ex … am I right in saying this because she said it’s her and her exes friends so I’m not invited .. need some advice on how to tackle this
Thanks

@Pricey1976 I think 99% of people who respect their partner would not go away with their ex without them! I’m still friendly with an ex but I would never dream of going away with him on my own. It would feel incredibly wrong and I would never do that to my partner. Your girlfriend doesn’t feel the same way, she is happy to disrespect you, she has used your child to try and justify her behaviour (which should be enough of a red flag to leave her) and she is showing you exactly how important you are to her right now. It sounds like her and her ex have reignited something between them but she’s not wanting to jump ship just yet. So in the meantime she will minimise your feelings and make you feel like you are the unreasonable one when in fact it’s her. Be strong and walk away.

Dry your eyes mate, I know it's hard to take but her minds has been made up...Plenty more fish in the sea, gotta walk away now its ohhver

Why has she not asked you to go away to get away from the weather? Sounds like she's putting her own wants and needs before you.

You can't tell her not to go, but you can make a decision on what you want to do if she does go. Personally it sounds odd and I'd finish it rather than get dragged into this drama

Sorry bud, but you need to get out of this one. She is showing you zero respect.

It's completely disrespectful to you. She should not be booking trips away with her ex and his friends, to add insult to injury tell you you're not invited.
She's trying to walk all over you.

I’m friends with a lot of my exes but would be unhappy in this situation.

As others have said. Pie this one off. It's like some drama out of made in chelsea.

You're going to be the one that she makes out you to be unreasonable to all her friends, which will only further the divide.

If she was at all serious about you, she would have insisted that you were invited as a plus one and a chance to acquaint with her friends.

This will ony get worse. Don't be a mug.

@PolkadotSkies lol, bit of a jump. I'm not controlling at all. My husband is free to go on an exclusive holiday with his ex if he wants. He just won't be my husband when he gets back. Wild that you would just put up with getting cheated on, for the sake of not being 'controlling'. It's called having boundaries.

Absolutely agree re. boundaries, overnight shagging with exes is overstepping the line.

You can't stopher going, you can expect that your gf has more consideration for you. If she doesn't, don't stay. Being treated like this is never going to make you happy.

Time to chuck that fish back in the sea;leave her and her ex to it.

Ha she wouldn't be coming back to me. Total disrespect.

I had a vaguely similar experience OP. Boyfriend and I met abroad (away from UK) as both living/working there. He had traveled there with his then girlfriend and their plane tickets included a short flight/holiday. Think UK to Ireland. They only booked this AFTER I had met boyfriend, and they'd been apart about 5mths!

I was livid, because they stayed in the same room (single beds apparently) and could have traveled there separately, or not at all!

Long story short, we've been married 10yrs and together 18 now!

When I've since asked him about this time, he felt that we were in such an early relationship and never realised how much it hurt me. maybe she feels the same, and will bring you along next time? Hard to say, but I understand feeling left out and odd about the whole situation. Do you have any holiday plans yourselves?

I should add that I do 100% think my now DH and his ex weren't together on the holiday. She came out several months prior. Looking back, they had dated 5+yrs and I think it was closure for them both. they have never seen each other or had contact in the 18yrs since that I'm aware of.

So weekend away with friends and the exBF, and you're not allowed to go because they are not 'your' friends?

Run for the hills mate, that is incredibly disrespectful.
The wedding thing was bad enough.

@femfemlicious

Wow how did she end up going to a wedding with her ex. Thats crazy!. Did they go 'together' or did she go and he went too. They probably shagged at that wedding. I would break up ASAP!

Exactly the response you’d see posted if op was a woman

Let’s see how many posters think this is mental or controlling…

Out of interest, do these friends even know you exist?

Get out and move on.

@TheNewBlack

YANBU.

Say ‘By all means go away with your ex if you want but it’s a deal breaker for me. I wish you well. Enjoy your holiday’. And walk away.

Don’t look back.

This!

Not a chance I’d be sticking around if I were you! Especially as they split up pretty recently!

How long were they together for? And who ended the relationship?

Trust your instincts.

You should be going too!

I think you’re her substitute if things don’t work out again between them.

Walk away, she’s making a mug out of you.

I say if someone is friends with there ex they either never loved them or are still in love with them
I completely disagree but in the ops case it appears that she is making a fool of them.