Too late to embrace my sexuality?

[sexysocks95]

I have always known I’m not 100% straight but recently I’m definitely starting to identify more as bisexual, however I feel like the fun, free part of my life has gone and I’ll never get to explore that side of my sexuality.
I told my close friends I was bi when I was a teenager, and they didn’t really take it seriously. So i never mentioned it again to anyone else. I told DH when I first met him that I’d had a relationship with a female but I think he just saw it as a kinky thing.
I feel like if I was on the dating scene now, I’d probably describe myself as pansexual, as I would be open to sex and relationships with people regardless of their gender identity, as long as I liked them as a person and was physically attracted to them. But now I am nearly 30, married for 3 years with a 7 month old baby, so I doubt I’ll ever be able to explore that part of me again. I have been involved with women before and not just sexually, I’ve had romantic feelings too. So it’s not just a ‘what if’ feeling (I’ve not had full sex with a woman though).
DH is amazing- he’s kind and generous, a wonderful father to our baby, and he makes me laugh so much every day. He is my best friend. And I still fancy him like mad after 8 years together! Even though I’m not always up for sex (we probably do it once or twice a fortnight), I enjoy it when we do have it. But I do fantasise about women or sometimes other men. And I think about sex a lot even though I’m not always in the mood to do something about it with DH. I find myself thinking ‘phwoar I’d shag him/her’ every time I see someone marginally attractive 😂
I guess I just feel a bit disappointed that I could’ve done something about these feelings before I met DH, had a bit more fun with my sexuality when I was younger. But it’s only now I’m more comfortable with myself at an older age that I would be confident enough to give it a go… but I’m married!
Anyone else been in a similar situation? Should I just accept that it’s still ok for me to identify as bi/pan even though I’m in a hetero relationship? I would never ever cheat. But I know there are married couples that openly sleep with other people. I don’t know whether to talk to DH about it. We have a baby so it’s not like I can go off every weekend shagging even if he was ok with it 😂

@newnortherner111

I think it is too late. Not because of your age, but because of being married and having a child. You can 'identify' in any way you wish, but I think you should be faithful to your DH (and vice-versa), and would think the same were it a man, or someone in a same sex relationship.

I agree...it's no different to someone posting about wanting to sleep with the opposite sex because of curiosity.

So you're bi...so what? You're in a committed relationship!

It is always ok to question your sexuality no matter your age. You are not required to be in a strictly homosexual/heterosexual relationship if you find out you are bi/pan/Omni etc. the point of those sexualities is to point out people love in all sorts of ways. So, if you are currently in a heterosexual relationship, that’s great. As long as you and your partner are both happy don’t fret too much about problems with your sexuality.

Maybe try the swinging scene if it's sex you're after? Might be "safer" for your relationship than developing emotional ties with other partners.

What's wrong with 'bisexual'?

What the fuck is pansexual??