Why do men beg for forgiveness when caught?

[LalaLopsie]

Just that really - why some men, maybe most, beg for forgiveness when caught out cheating?

Because they want to have their cake and eat it.

And it works with some women.

Because they don't want the primary relationship to end as they often still care and also realise the costs associated: lose home comforts, be judged by community, damage relationship with kids, financial implications and change in general

Because they think we're stooooopid.

What exactly does "have the cake and eat it" means?
If breaking up would mean having the freedom of fucking about as much as they wanted/can why would they want another chance?

As @sofato5miles said, they still want to be looked after, remain in the family home, not do the work involved in separation etc.

they don’t think about being free to do what they want, they think they gave the right to do what they want regardless of their living situation and the feelings of others. It’s basic selfishness

Because they don't want YOU to decide when it's over.

They don't want to go and live in a bedsit and do their own laundry/shopping/cooking. They want the family home and the wife to do the wife work and the bit on the side.

Because they don't want to,leave their comfy nest unless another one is available, then they're off like a shot. They can't cope without their house slave!

They realise it's going to be a bit hard to go through a breakup and they don't really like hard.

runningupthecurtains has it.

A very few might genuinely be hoping for forgiveness and feel terrible but most just don't want a change in the status quo, and can't bear to be the rejected one instead of the rejecting. No one likes being rejected, even if they richly deserve it. And I think quite a few men think they're entitled to have it all and the wife's being a PITA when she doesn't put up and shut up.

You'll never understand this if you're female. We just don't think like men do.

For women, when a relationship is bad enough that someone else seems preferable to our partner, we leave. Therefore a cheating man must be (to us) an unhappy man who'd rather leave.

But to men, sex is fun, diverting, an ego boost, a "win", a thrill, a momentary high... It has nothing to do with his main relationship or his home.

When it threatens his home, he realises how much home means to him and begs to stay.

(Then when the crisis passes, he forgets all that and starts chasing the thrills again.)

Because their shallow and selfish:the thrill of the chase,the flirtation,the illicit sex;it's exciting and strokes their egos but what's not exciting and good for their ego is losing their home,their family,the cost of a divorce/separation,not having their children live with them and everyone knowing their a cheat which makes them look bad.

Lots of reasons

Because moving out and finding a new place is a hassle plus deep down they know that living with their mistress won't be half as exciting as having an affair.

Because they don't want their kids to know

Because they want to pretend that they aren't a bad person

Because they want to be dumped rather than be the person doing the dumping so they can blame their partner

Because they know that leaving your wife for your mistress is considered bad

Because they don't want family and friends knowing

Laziness. From the small stuff like packing up,their stuff and finding somewhere else to live. To the big stuff like looking after the dc on their own. Taking them out for the day, making their meals, washing their socks, listening to them read.

Money.

"You can't have your cake and eat it too" - means you can't have it both ways. If you decide to eat your slice of cake, it's gone. Someone trying to have his cake and eat it is someone like presumably your partner who wants both to shag other women and have the homelife with you at the same time.

my ex never begged for forgiveness. i think it was a relief once he was caught that way he could do what he wanted without worrying about me finding out.

We are not begging for forgiveness for cheating, we are begging forgiveness for being caught.

Remember the good lord didn’t give man enough blood to use his head and have an erection at the same time.

Not that I have cheated.

Remember the good lord didn’t give man enough blood to use his head and have an erection at the same time.

What a load of shit.

Remember the good lord didn’t give man enough blood to use his head and have an erection at the same time.

Most penises just aren't impressive enough for that joke to be funny ime.

@AlbertBridge

You'll never understand this if you're female. We just don't think like men do.

For women, when a relationship is bad enough that someone else seems preferable to our partner, we leave. Therefore a cheating man must be (to us) an unhappy man who'd rather leave.

But to men, sex is fun, diverting, an ego boost, a "win", a thrill, a momentary high... It has nothing to do with his main relationship or his home.

When it threatens his home, he realises how much home means to him and begs to stay.

(Then when the crisis passes, he forgets all that and starts chasing the thrills again.)

Bang on

People who heat are selfish and unkind generally. Because they’re selfish, they don’t want the hassle/shame that comes with being chucked out of the family home, having to be single, mutual friends and family members being told just what type of person they really are.

They’d rather keep the image of lovely family man while deep down being selfish and sleeping with other people, even putting their loving partner’s health at risk by not being open about sleeping with others.

@takeaflight

We are not begging for forgiveness for cheating, we are begging forgiveness for being caught.

Remember the good lord didn’t give man enough blood to use his head and have an erection at the same time.

Not that I have cheated.

And yet decent blokes manage it...

What a load of minimising bollocks.

Women cheat. Men cheat. Cheaters cheat.

Men don't do it because they're somehow incapable of controlling themselves 'because penis'.

Cheaters choose to cheat.

Because they are weak, pathetic losers

They don’t want anyone else - people whose opinions ACTUALLY matter to them, like their friends and their mothers - to find out that they are lying, cheating bastards.