Hi everyone
I will try and keep this as straightforward as I can
I am currently 26 weeks pregnant and already have a 5 year old son, both to my (now ex) partner
Things have always been rocky. Ex has borderline personality disorder (diagnosed) and struggles with depression and anxiety
In 2019 we split, he remained in our jointly owned home and me and my son moved out and rented.
August 2020 we reconciled and have since been trying to make things work (or so I thought). I fell pregnant beginning of 2021, baby wasn't planned and many will think how foolish but nonetheless we are expecting a baby girl in October. Please no judgment, the clock cannot be turned back!
Anyway, throughout our relationship I have tried so so hard to support his struggles with his BPD and mental health, I have tried to be patient, caring, forgiving. He does not work at all, he has issues with gambling and is verbally and emotionally abusive. We are in the process of selling our home to pay off his debts and living together in my rented home. Things have never been great, but never so bad as they have been lately but I always held on to that glimmer of hope and so wanted for things to work out. So many people have told me to leave but it's so easy to say and so hard to do. We have good and happy times too and I think they are what keep me holding on.
Today he has upped and left me. He says that he's not happy with me, he's been pretending because I'm pregnant. He won't communicate or talk, he's blocked my number and social media. He's already on dating sites. He is being so cold and blunt and so final about everything. I feel worthless! I can't stop crying and thinking this is not how things are meant to be. Feels like my world has crumbled around me
I'm so sad, confused, hurt and I feel abandoned. I guess I'm just here for somewhere to vent and hopefully find someone who can relate and tell me everything will be ok? It's like I know im better off without him but I am also terrified and heartbroken and sad.
Any advice would be appreciated xx