Me and my partner have been together for 8 years, one child together and another on the way.
We have always split household bills 50/50. He has things like expensive sports subscription but I've always paid towards it. I completed all home improvements, bought all furniture, put the deposit down on our home, pay for all things relating to our child. My husband would contribute £100 per month (said it was all he could afford) despite earning £30,000 per year. I left it as I manged fine on my wage. Covid hit and I've lost £800 pcm. We still pay 50% bills (fine) he pays more towards one of our joint debts which I covered for 2 years previously.
When my wage dropped we discovered my husband had huge debts and a gambling problem. Gambling has been addressed, he is paying off the debt. It has left us struggling a huge deal. I asked this week for £5 towards something for our son, he said he couldn't afford it. Today he has had an afternoon in the pub and spent £30 (not much but considering he couldn't afford £5 for something for son I am annoyed) I am pregnant and while he was having drinks I asked for l some food. He added this amount up in front of me and said I would need to pay it back. He ate the food too. I didn't want to make a scene.
I feel hurt and annoyed. I don't feel like it's been fair. I'm facing the 6 week holidays, with £30 per week to entertain our son. He pays £50 a month into savings for things for the baby. I will be expected to pay the full cost of entertaining our son while he works. If we go to the cinema or do something as a family we pay 50/50 but I am off over the holidays and my money will go on our son. Im not sure if I'm justified in feeling hard-done by.
I've always covered clothing/things for home/sons entertainment etc and now i can't afford to do this. My husband knows we need these things. He spends 'his' money on socialising (i don't really socialise) and does do things with us as a family (covering 50%) im just so upset that he could spend that money in the pub, but whenever I ask him for something we need its always 'when I get paid' even if he's just been paid or that he can't afford it. Im so fed up.