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What would you think?

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Mummybear886 · 24/07/2021 20:42

Yesterday morning I asked my partner if he wanted intercourse before I woke the children up for school, he said no because he was drunk so I thought fair enough. I got back from taking them to school and he was asleep with his phone next to him which he never does, so I took a look and noticed he was watching porn yesterday morning. Last night he came to bed and we was getting intermate and he couldn't get a hard on, he said it was because he was hungover. What would you think it could of been? Or did he just not want it with me? It's being playing on my mind all day.

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Justcallmebebes · 24/07/2021 21:08

I'd think he was a drunken cocklodger and get rid

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Mummybear886 · 24/07/2021 21:12

@Justcallmebebes

I'd think he was a drunken cocklodger and get rid
He doesn't drink usually, that was first time in about a year.
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[AUTO]yhcrykm39b002 · 24/07/2021 21:25

You say he doesn't drink so what's he like any other time you offer intercourse?

TheFoundations · 24/07/2021 21:29

If you're having to post this, the relationship isn't healthy for you. You're basically in a situation of 'Am I too unattractive to my man, compared to porn?' You're looking at his phone, and you're questioning him not being able to get it up. And you're questioning it with strangers online, rather than actually being able to ask him.

Just leave.

Notnowkate · 24/07/2021 21:32

Maybe he just didn't want sex?

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Mummybear886 · 24/07/2021 21:33

[quote [AUTO]yhcrykm39b002]You say he doesn't drink so what's he like any other time you offer intercourse?[/quote]
Don't get it often and when I do it's not for long.

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Mummybear886 · 24/07/2021 21:35

He's just said now "I don't know why it wouldn't go hard this morning,I was really horny aswell"

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Mummybear886 · 24/07/2021 21:35

@Notnowkate

Maybe he just didn't want sex?
He came in to me.
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Mummybear886 · 24/07/2021 21:41

Ment on to me

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Mummybear886 · 24/07/2021 22:18

[quote [AUTO]yhcrykm39b002]You say he doesn't drink so what's he like any other time you offer intercourse?[/quote]
It's usually on his terms and how he likes it.

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DottyDotty91 · 24/07/2021 22:24

@Justcallmebebes

What the hell? 😂

You do realise men are allowed to say no to sex? He’s also entitled to watch porn/have a wank if he wishes. He’s not obliged to sleep with the OP if he doesn’t want to.

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Mummybear886 · 24/07/2021 23:16

@Notnowkate

Maybe he just didn't want sex?
He was being a dick because Thursday night he was giving me a massage and he spanked me but I wasn't expecting it and he hurt me and he got in a grump.
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Shellady · 24/07/2021 23:20

[quote DottyDotty91]@Justcallmebebes

What the hell? 😂

You do realise men are allowed to say no to sex? He’s also entitled to watch porn/have a wank if he wishes. He’s not obliged to sleep with the OP if he doesn’t want to.[/quote]
Sure men are entitled to not have sex
But entitled to porn ? No I certainly don’t agree ken have an entitlement to that a abusive mysogynistic crap
I’d be more concerned that he supports and industry that routinely degrades women and girls , allows images without their consent etc there’s just so much info on it that no one can claim ignorance …. Unless he claims to somehow know for sure he doesn’t support such platforms
That alone is enough to bin

Shellady · 24/07/2021 23:26

We are not talking about industry that abuses people in wages or exploits their time , which is bad enough . We are talking about an industry with a long and ongoing investment history of SEXUAL ABUSE of women and minors .
People CAN say they don’t care and will still use it but they really can’t deny that the porn industry is rife with it .

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Mummybear886 · 25/07/2021 07:23

So he came to bed last night and again wouldn't go hard saying it could be this that and other but I don't want you to think you're not attractive because you are. I managed to get it hard after about half an hour just for him to finish within a minute. So frustrating.

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EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 25/07/2021 07:33

Sounds like a case of Death Grip. I have no problem with porn use (I both consume it and make it) but heavy porn use can really limit your ability to physically perform.

I had to spend a month "retraining" my clitoris after using high power vibrators for too long.

However I do want to point out this:
Thursday night he was giving me a massage and he spanked me but I wasn't expecting it and he hurt me and he got in a grump

So he did something you hadn't consented to, which was physically painful to you, and when you protested, HE got upset with you? Absolute dick move.

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Mummybear886 · 25/07/2021 07:57

@EvenMoreFuriousVexation

Sounds like a case of Death Grip. I have no problem with porn use (I both consume it and make it) but heavy porn use can really limit your ability to physically perform.

I had to spend a month "retraining" my clitoris after using high power vibrators for too long.

However I do want to point out this:
Thursday night he was giving me a massage and he spanked me but I wasn't expecting it and he hurt me and he got in a grump

So he did something you hadn't consented to, which was physically painful to you, and when you protested, HE got upset with you? Absolute dick move.

Usually I'm not bothered but I've being in pain all over recently so it hurt.
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TerraNovaTwo · 25/07/2021 08:07

He sounds like quite the catch, OP.

I would feel really turned off a grown man who can't perform in the bedroom and prefers his sexual kicks from having had a w**k.

Probably why I'm single. Many men are this way it seems. I'd rather not bother with men than be with a w**ker.

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Mummybear886 · 25/07/2021 08:11

@TerraNovaTwo

He sounds like quite the catch, OP.

I would feel really turned off a grown man who can't perform in the bedroom and prefers his sexual kicks from having had a w**k.

Probably why I'm single. Many men are this way it seems. I'd rather not bother with men than be with a w**ker.

The thing is I do really love him so should I just let him get on with it or just leave. It's so difficult.
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butterpuffed · 25/07/2021 08:18

The thing is I do really love him so should I just let him get on with it or just leave. It's so difficult

Asking people's opinions in here is fine but not asking whether you should leave or stay. That's up to you.

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Mummybear886 · 25/07/2021 08:26

@butterpuffed

The thing is I do really love him so should I just let him get on with it or just leave. It's so difficult

Asking people's opinions in here is fine but not asking whether you should leave or stay. That's up to you.

Yeah I know, like I said I really do love him so I've got alot of thinking to do.
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EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 25/07/2021 08:27

Usually I'm not bothered but I've being in pain all over recently so it hurt.

This makes it even worse! He knows you're physically in pain, he does something that hurt you more, you said "Ouch that hurts, stop"... And then he made it all about his feelings?

This man is no good OP.

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Mummybear886 · 25/07/2021 09:17

When he said to me it doesn't feel right It won't go hard,i felt like saying it does for porn tho doesn't it. But I just kept my mouth shut.

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butterpuffed · 25/07/2021 09:50

Aw, good luck @Mummybear886 whatever you decide Flowers

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Mummybear886 · 25/07/2021 09:54

@butterpuffed

Aw, good luck *@Mummybear886* whatever you decide Flowers
Thank you!
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