I don't have anyone I can talk this out with so I just wanted some opinions, DW stepped out of our marriage about 18 months ago deciding she wanted to be with a co-worker she had been texting for months. Quite honestly she's put me through a hellish time bouncing back and forth between me and the OM while living in our house (with me) and at one point I moved out and came back because she wanted to give it another only for her to decide she wanted to be with OM.
The last six months she has been living with me in our home and seeing the OM (she's not paid a penny towards anything). She has finally informed me she is looking to move out in a couple of weeks and in the same breath wants me to pay her the equity that's hers in the house (I have no problem doing that).
Problem is I don't have the money to buy her outright so she said she will take it monthly instead until the balance is paid, I am feeling pretty angry as it is and then telling me she's found a place and that she wants her equity in the same breath and just made me feel even more angry. Its like she's blown up all of our lives and acting like all this is just water off a ducks back, if she'd just moved out and gave me a breather then we could have spoken about what the next step was.
My DC are grown up but have recently moved back home so I have them both here. So do I just swallow my anger and pride and pay her the equity she's owed in the monthly amount OR just sell the house and each take the share and be done with it? The monthly amounts feel like I am funding him and her, I know that sounds stupid and I should rise above it, also just feels like we will be tied to each other for years to come as the payments would be made over the next 5 years.