I need to leave

[Mylifeisacircus]

Please no hate or rude comments
I'm 23, 3 children (4,2 and 11weeks). IV been with my husband 10 years in August.
He works a Great job and able to support us all ( something we've always discussed and agreed on).
We have our rough patches, he's done a few things that are hard to forgive but we've worked through them.
However the last 4 months or so it's like walking on egg shells with him, he can be very nasty and just snaps and its hard for him to get out of it.
But it's worse because he's started taking it out on my 4year old, for example
He accidentally fell into a mirror which landed on a wall and put a hole in it, I had to take my boy off him because I was scared he was going to throw him down the stairs. This morning they whete playing catch, my son threw it and it hit DH eye and he started screaming at him that he was a fucking bastard. DS ran upstairs and hid.

I can't do it anymore I don't want them growing up with trauma.
However I can't leave, Iv no family, no income, the tenancy is in his name. What can I do :(

You can leave and you have to leave. Your children are in danger. There are women's refuges - where are you, and we can do some digging for you?

I'm in Bradford currently x

No hate or judgment here but I hope you know you have to leave and take your children to safety. I am not in your area and I'm sure people will be along shortly who can advise your regarding shelters etc.

I just wanted to say that I have a daughter who was not much older than you when she had to flee her abusive partner who started to get violent with her and very shouty with the kids. She too had 2 toddlers and was 8 months pregnant at the time. She went to a hostel/shelter for a year. It was the best thing she ever did. The year being homeless (in a shelter) was quite hard with toddlers and a baby but she had so much help and support and is now safe in her own 3 bedroom lovely house and has never been happier. I wish you and your little ones all the very best but please get away if only for the sake of your kids. They don't deserve this and neither do you.

He's started being abusive. Things will only get worse. You'd be entitled to benefits, Universal Credit at the very least and probably others as well.

Hello Mylifeisacircus, we're really sorry that you're going through this. Please consider seeking some real life help ASAP. Our Domestic Violence webguide has some useful links so please take a look.

If you feel you or your children are in danger, please call 999. If you're unable to speak, there is more information on the silent solution here.

Best wishes from MNHQ.

Contact women’s aid and your local council to present as homeless due to domestic violence. You can and must leave as your husband has started to abuse your son and it won’t stop, it will only get worse.

Has this only started now or honestly has he been violent or verbally abusive to you/others in the past?

Please look at the resources MNHQ has provided, @Mylifeisacircus - I hope your mindset isn't whether you should leave, but how to do it. There's a Women's Aid in Bradford, their number is 01274 668049.

Please please please find the strength to do this, before the temper and "taking it out" on your poor defenceless children starts leaving lasting physical and emotional damage - or worse. We're with you, you can do this, and you'll look back and realise it was the best thing you ever did.