I am more and more aware of the little my DH tries to control me - but not sure if i am over reacting because of other issues. LTR +25 years. If I look back over my relationship I see I have always done things like come back from a meal with friends before I am ready to because he will be waiting up for me or I can't be late to a time i have already said ( we are talking 10.30/11pm not rolling in drunk at 2am). He very much wants everyone in the house to do what he wants or his way- no recognition of anyone else, and and drama of stress in the house comes from him and his ways. He also "makes me" feel bad about doing other stuff for me. This morning I went to an early outdoor fitness thing (I am working 10 days in a row in front of a screen this week). Tonight he had the audacity to say "why did you did that this morning - you could have been with me" and when I said I needed it to restore me with the kind of week I have he said I could have been restored giving him a blowjob! Often I will do something for md and j have noticed as soon as I come home there is something he then mit picks about. He is so needy - wants to know where I am in the house all the time. I am now working away for two days and had constant I will miss you - i don't want you up go - i don't see why you can't drive in the morning.... he has loads of routines that expects me to do - wants me to sit and chat with him when he is in the bath (every time) Recently on a couple of occasions I said a certain thing when he arrived home and now he expects it every time. I don't actually know how I am not screaming out loud. This can't be the rest of my life - only a couple of years until the kids have gone. Am I over reacting I think this is not normal?