DH and his memory and confusion is worrying me, he's 49

[cantrememberagain]

My DH has always been a bit forgetful, he will loose things and forget but just like a regular person.

I'm starting to get really concerned over the last year he spends most days at least 30 minutes a day wandering around looking for something he's misplaced, his keys, his wallet etc. In the last 6 months we've had to replace 3 of his bank cards he's lost.

He also does this thing where he says "I'll mow the grass" and two days later it's not done and he seems confused as he's clearly said he was doing it, it's like he think is by saying it, it happens?

Same with food shopping, he's not been for weeks but daily says "I'll go to the shops"

Yesterday he forgot the vets app other the day before he forgot to take my son to his appointment, he's forgotten the dogs and seems just so confused.

He's also getting angry and kind of "flap" panic like if we are running late or for anything that has a timeframe.

I've started this week keeping a note book to pop down everything that happens as it's really starting to impact of the family and I feel like it's me that's making something out of nothing.

What am I supposed to do with this information? I joke with him about being forgetful but now it seems not a joke and maybe something a bit worse that may need medical help.

For context his dad has dementia but is 85 and his started in his 70s so could it be the start?

Anyone with similar experience or tell me that the above is normal?

Honestly all of the things you've mentioned it could be are making me in a strange way reassured and have given me the confidence to not ignore this any longer.

I wrote the post this morning after saying to him.. don't forget to ring x, could you talk to x and book a restaurant

.. and saying we have x in the fridge for tea later, so don't worry about a shop..

I've just spoken to him and he's done a shop because he though that's what I said and totally forgot on to do the other two things.

@VienneseWhirligig is he ok?

Um, he died, but he also had lung cancer and sepsis so it wasn't just the brain tumour. The lung cancer came first, it just spread to his brain, but I noticed he was being a bit ditzy and forgetful long before they found the tumour. It must have been the start of it. (I'm not saying this to scare you, and hopefully it's something as easily treatable as vit d deficiency which a pp mentioned).

@VienneseWhirligig oh I'm so sorry what an awful time that must of been and still be. I'm sorry for your loss.

Good advice here but also a UTI can have some very weird effects on memory and can be responsible for this kind of behaviour. Definitely worth a chat with GP - and making sure he doesn't forget to go to the appt I guess?