Drug use?

[Loui98]

Hi

Does anyone have any experience of their partner being addicted to drugs? What are some of the signs? If someone disappears once a week and you just can’t get hold of them and then makes up a ridiculous excuse the next day does this point towards drug use? Alongside always being broke, having a very addictive personality, being a heavy drug user in the past? The drug I am concerned about is cocaine. How would you know if your partner does coke if you don’t live with them? Apart from always having a runny nose and being broke what other signs are there?

@HeavenHotel he’s the type that if I block him he will turn up at my door and cause a scene. He’s already told me before that if he cannot get hold of me, he will come to my house. I have already told him today that it’s over and I cannot be with him. He’s busy at work right now so I’ve not been in contact but I need to give him his stuff that he’s left at mine and after that I will cut all contact. In the past when he’s been unable to get hold of me, he starts messaging me from his colleagues phones and calling me off them (obv I don’t recognise the number so I answer) and then getting his friend to message me telling me to call him. So I don’t want any of that this time, I have already told him he doesn’t need to explain anything and that It’s over but I’ll give him a chance to collect his stuff (from outside my house) and then block him

The lies he's telling you are a kind of script the addict follows. Addicts make convincing liars. Habit always comes first.

It doesn't matter if he is doing drugs; he disappears without plausible excuses and lies - that should be enough in itself to end it.

If you end it and he spirals out of control, that is NOT your fault - it is ENTIRELY HIS fault.

He can't make you happy, good for you for blocking. 💐

[quote Loui98]@lawandgin I really was in denial that he was on coke. He sounds so convincing all the time and when he is with me is really nice but all the evidence points to coke use and unfortunately I think his is quite bad. He has told me himself that he wouldn’t get anything out of £40 of coke and when he does it he will do around £300 worth at a time (he made out this was when he was younger) and I believe this is probably what he’s doing[/quote]
Funny if he specifically mentioned £40 as that's the exact amount an absolutely shitty gram of 'coke' (god knows what is actually in there) very, very often costs outside of major cities. A very common price for a gram of essentially speed, talcum powder stuff etc. Hugely damaging still and just as awful to contribute to a supply chain full of abused people.

Thank god you didn’t let him move in. That he sees being bored as a good excuse to use coke is ridiculous!

Darling if he turns up at the door and causes a scene, don't answer. Just call the police.

Same at work!

Don't let him drag you down.

You can do this!!

You sound like you mean it this time!!

Good luck

The trouble with real addiction is it's an illness not a choice. Recreational drug taking is a different story...
One of my friends is currently in rehab for heroin addiction. He sends me info so I can understand. They will always find the money for drugs. Doesnt matter if it's a 'rich mans'.drug or not.