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Curious about the behaviours. Normal or a red flag/too much.

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VirginCoconutOil · 08/07/2021 05:10

I've had a new fwb for coming up to 4 months.

I don't do relationships. I haven't had a relationship for a very.long time. I have no interest in one either so this isn't me hoping you'll all tell me he's actually fallen in love with me Wink

I'm just curious. He does things that I'm not familiar with/have no experience of. I can't work out if it's nice or too much. I mean, it's too much for me but I just wonder whether other women might like it. Whether it's normal or a bit much. Thanks.

He messages every morning/night without fail, regardless of what else he's doing, as a minimum.

He sometimes tells me I'm beautiful etc (I'm not and I don't need to be told I am).

He has come to my house once or twice just to drop off 'care packages' eg once when I was ill and once when he knew I had a very heavy work weekend. He leaves them on the doorstep for me to find.

I said I wanted to do a bit of work in my garden and he planned to come and do it for me on his day off as a surprise but the bad weather stopped him.

If we're sitting on the sofa or something together, when I stand up to walk away, he sometimes pulls me back for a hug or to sit on his lap for a few seconds.

He often offers to do things for me (and acts upon it if I let him) eg fixing things, etc although I'm more than capable of doing these things myself and he knows that.

I don't know, it just seems a bit 'much. I feel quite squashed by it. If that makes sense.

For context, I've known him for a few years. We met irl.

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VirginCoconutOil · 11/07/2021 05:40

@BringOnTheOtherWorlders

Seems like he is wasting his time if he wants marriage and children. He should be having a life meeting like-minded women, not trimming your hedge.
Why does that read like you're having a dig?

He's not wasting his time if this is what he wants to do. We see each other around once a fortnight. He's free to do whatever he wishes the rest of the time and he knows that. As am I.

Besides that's not what the thread was about.

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