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Original poster

What to say to these "messages"

33 replies

hmmmawkward · 05/07/2021 00:21

A guy I really don't don't has now, I assume, drunk messaged me twice in as many week.

First one said "Hi Hmmmawkward". The second was just two random letters.

He did this a a couple of years ago and replied, I think I just asked if he was okay.

It feels bad ignoring him, which is what I did a couple of weeks ago.

What do I say? I don't want to get into a conversation as I really barely know him from years back, but I'm aware he might be struggling just now, and ignoring someone isn't in my nature.

Do I ask if he is okay??

OP posts:
CrouchEndTiger12 · 05/07/2021 00:22

If you don't know him and haven't Seend him for years and don't want a conversation...block and delete him

GreyhoundG1rl · 05/07/2021 00:25

Weird. Just ignore, don't ask if he's ok Confused Why wouldn't he be?

Original poster
hmmmawkward · 05/07/2021 00:27

Because he's clearly drunk.

I could bump into him at anytime and that would be awkward. I would say hello if saw him, but that would be it.

I guess I'm overthinking it.

OP posts:
CrouchEndTiger12 · 05/07/2021 00:32

If you only know him well enough to say nothing more than hello to him, I don't know why you have his number still. I'd genuinely block and delete.

Original poster
hmmmawkward · 05/07/2021 00:43

I don't have his number, and never have. It's through Facebook Messenger.

OP posts:
walkoflifewoohoo · 05/07/2021 00:44

Eh? Ignore

Maggiesfarm · 05/07/2021 00:46

Just ignore him, hmmmawkward.

CrouchEndTiger12 · 05/07/2021 01:38

Gosh just block him.

HeadFullofRandom · 05/07/2021 01:40

Ignore and block, he's more likely looking for a drunken hook up than help.

Sakurami · 05/07/2021 02:13

I would unfriendly him

Paddling654 · 05/07/2021 02:18

I wouldn't think about it again

hawkehurstgang · 05/07/2021 02:28

Does he have kids? Sounds like something one of mine would accidentally send if they pick up my phone

me4real · 05/07/2021 02:55

He gives you the creeps/makes you feel uncomfortable. Block him.

Midnightballerina · 05/07/2021 03:03

I wouldn't say anything I would just block & ignore

Aquamarine1029 · 05/07/2021 03:21

You block him. Obviously. Confused

SmackMyAssnCallMeJudy · 05/07/2021 03:36

You really are over-thinking this. There’s no issue here.

BringOnTheOtherWorlders · 05/07/2021 05:09

It's hard to make much sense when the message is being composed by a drunk penis.

StealthPolarBear · 05/07/2021 05:15

His feelings aren't your problem

PurpleSlate · 05/07/2021 05:38

@StealthPolarBear

His feelings aren't your problem
This!

It not even a mumsnet thread really. It's just an eye roll and a block.

I told one of friends that his same.age (20+ yes older than me) business partner was inappropriately messaging me via messenger who then had a word with him and it stopped. That was, no doubt, a bit awkward for him.

I sat in a pub 2 weeks ago with my bf and a few friends. One of whom is a married man who took to attempting to alleviate his lockdown boredom by messaging me inappropriately. I ignored the messages and told bf. He tried a few times and then stopped. He moved to another table initially when we arrived. That was, no doubt, a bit awkward for him.

Neither was awkward for me.

So I can't understand why you are concerned with the feelings of this idiot or think it would be awkward tbh.

category12 · 05/07/2021 05:48

Do you really fancy this guy and so are jumping on any contact as an opportunity?

Or do you have an extremely people-pleasing attitude, op? Do you feel like you owe anyone (or any man) attention if they show an interest in you? Do you try to "rescue" people? If so, while you probably think of it as a positive trait about yourself - "being nice" - it can be an attribute that will get you into messes and get you treated like a door mat.

This guy doesn't need rescuing.
This guy doesn't need a response.

The only reason to respond is if you fancy his arse off.

PurpleSlate · 05/07/2021 05:51

I've just reread your op.

"Feel bad ignoring him"

"Just aware he might he struggling just now"

"Not in my nature to ignore someone"

It's not ancriticism of you, OP, but it makes me really cross that, as a society, we have so many women who will consider the feelings of an irritant/potentially predatory/just down right annoying male before their own!

bruffin · 05/07/2021 07:38

If it was email, its a scam and someone has spoofed his email. I sometimes get those from my dd and a couple of old work colleagues i havnt spoken to in years

Tiramiwho · 05/07/2021 07:56

He's looking for abit of sexting with you, with a view to a hookup. Probably doing it to others at the same time.
In ancient times when I was still on Facebook, I had a random very vague acquaintance do the same. He was also very married and I knew his wife by sight only. Immediate block.

Emmelina · 06/07/2021 09:04

Sounds like he’s just messaging women on his list to see who replies. Don’t open yourself up!

PacifyLulu · 06/07/2021 09:05

He’s looking for a drunken shag.