What to say to these "messages"

[hmmmawkward]

A guy I really don't don't has now, I assume, drunk messaged me twice in as many week.

First one said "Hi Hmmmawkward". The second was just two random letters.

He did this a a couple of years ago and replied, I think I just asked if he was okay.

It feels bad ignoring him, which is what I did a couple of weeks ago.

What do I say? I don't want to get into a conversation as I really barely know him from years back, but I'm aware he might be struggling just now, and ignoring someone isn't in my nature.

Do I ask if he is okay??

Urgh just ignore or block him

@PurpleSlate

I've just reread your op.

"Feel bad ignoring him"

"Just aware he might he struggling just now"

"Not in my nature to ignore someone"

It's not ancriticism of you, OP, but it makes me really cross that, as a society, we have so many women who will consider the feelings of an irritant/potentially predatory/just down right annoying male before their own!

This.

Why would it be awkward for you anyway? Surely he's the one who should feel awkward if you bumped into each other?

Why are you giving this any thought at all?

@PurpleSlate

I've just reread your op.

"Feel bad ignoring him"

"Just aware he might he struggling just now"

"Not in my nature to ignore someone"

It's not ancriticism of you, OP, but it makes me really cross that, as a society, we have so many women who will consider the feelings of an irritant/potentially predatory/just down right annoying male before their own!

Exactly. OP, ignoring drunk messages should be in your nature. I think you think you’re being sweet and kind, but you’re in fact behaving as though a drunk, inappropriate stranger’s feelings are more important than your own.

If you’d incoherently drunk-messaged a man you barely knew several times, would you seriously think he should be bustling around wondering if you’re ‘struggling’, starting concerned internet threads to ask how you should respond etc?

He isn't entitled to a reply from you. Ignore if you have no wishes to speak to him.

You don't know him. You seem to think you might be his saviour in some way - he's drunk, he needs someone...

You're thinking far too much about this. He isn't messaging you when he's sober. He isn't even messaging - if he's too drunk to send a proper message then why would you want to talk to him?

Who cares if he's ok or not? You don't owe this stranger emotional support, just block him.

There's no reason for you to feel anything about what he does. You are massively overthinking it, block him and don't worry about bumping into him. So what if you do?
You are not required to maintain contact with everyone you've ever met, and you don't owe him anything.

I'd ignore. Does my head in when people just message 'hi' - it puts all the onus of communication on to the other person, who never asked for a conversation in the first place.