Porn

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I would like to see what other people think about the situation with porn and relationships. My question is do you think that men watching porn is acceptable in a relationship? My partner watches it (he doesn't know I know this) when I have questioned him about it he says that he doesn't watch porn but looks at pictures of nude women on his phone. When I asked him why he said that it's something to do when he is bored and he doesn't get to see my naked as I don't like to get dressed in front of him as I feel embarrassed about my body. This also makes me feel worse as the women he looks at are all young and slim. It makes me resent him! I personally think porn is not acceptable in a relationship but each to their own!

@peanutttttt
You say I’m thinking about it too hard ?
Perhaps you are not thinking about it hard enough

@Shellady there is no way of knowing ever. Just as there is no way knowing many things. There is no way of know that your next door neighbor is being abused, or your boss has a foot fetish. There's no way of knowing many things. But life still goes on. Porn is still going to be there regardless. It sucks to think oh I could possibly be watching revenge porn or anything of the sort, but I'm not going to stress myself out about thinking about it when there's nothing I can do to know the facts.

[quote Shellady]@peanutttttt
You say I’m thinking about it too hard ?
Perhaps you are not thinking about it hard enough[/quote]
No. Im just not going to stress myself out but something that I can't control or something that will always remain unknown.

Im sorry you feel unsecure about your body image , especially if you have a baby/child. But you say he IS still interested in having a sexual relationship with you so this is a problem you have. I hope you're able to get some body positivity, however that looks for you.
But... if you really cannot accept your partner looking at porn/naked photos of women then have a conversation with him about how that makes you feel. He ultimately gets to decide what he wanks to tbh. But he should have at least have the information from you that you don't like it.
If he doesn't want to stop you then get to decide if this is the relationship you want.

I use porn. (Film and written) When I'm in a relationship I don't hide it.
Its not that I would leave said partner for a porn star, or that I wish my man to look like THAT man in the porno. Its a tool/aid to get me off.
I can be having regular sex with in my relationship and still masturbate, it is not a reflection on my partners ability to satisfy me. (If he was unable to satisfy me and I had communicated how to satisfy me and he still didn't bother he'd be out the door).
Equally I have no issues with my partner masturbating using porn. Or watching it together.

[quote peanutttttt]@Shellady there is no way of knowing ever. Just as there is no way knowing many things. There is no way of know that your next door neighbor is being abused, or your boss has a foot fetish. There's no way of knowing many things. But life still goes on. Porn is still going to be there regardless. It sucks to think oh I could possibly be watching revenge porn or anything of the sort, but I'm not going to stress myself out about thinking about it when there's nothing I can do to know the facts. [/quote]
No there is no way of knowing . Exactly !
But there IS a way of not supporting such a filthy industry that hurts women and girls

@peanutttttt
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No. Im just not going to stress myself out but something that I can't control or something that will always remain unknown.’

You’re not just ‘ not just stressing yourself out ‘ you are doing something that by your own words is against your own ethics if you don’t agree with abuse towards women and girls

We obviously don’t agree so I’ll leave if there but I can’t help but wonder if someone posted a video of a female you loved for another man ( or woman ) to get off to your still think that worrying about that was just ‘ thinking about it too hard

I actually had to look twice at your name because I wrote the same a few years back . Same excuse as what my partner said to me why he watched it . A year later he said he only said it to piss me off and obviously he would of watched it no matter what . Trying to make you feel sorry for the poor bugger not seeing you naked ! Don't start me off with porn . I am having counselling sessions and I'm on medication because what it done to me with my ex and that was ten years ago . It's ruined my life basically. Ruined all my relationships afterwards . And my self esteem . My ex had a porn addiction . Also used to find spunky socks under the bed and he would just say it's because I'm far and ugly what's why he was doing it . He would swear he would never do it again and then I would find more cds hidden in places . Also he would sneak down in the middle of the night and watch it on tv . Forget to knock it off so when I would go down in the morning it would still be on . Don't put up with something you don't agree with op and I hate the saying it's just what men do ! No it's bloody not

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