My H left me and our toddler DD at the beginning of May for the woman I found out he had been having an affair with since before Christmas. I went through a phase of intense grief and shock, just wanting him back etc, but have come out the other side and feel calmer now. One of the delightful things I found out from H when he left was that he had gradually been losing desire for me since our wedding 5 years ago. So that was nice..left me feeling very shaken and pretty shit about myself.
One of the reasons I am feeling better is because I have met a guy on Tinder. We started talking at the end of May and met up yesterday for the first time. I should add at this point that we met in a hotel because I really wanted to have sex with him.. it wasn't the case that he wanted sex and I 'succumbed'.
Now my body is not terrible, but I'm almost 42, have stretch marks, wobbly bits and in particular my stomach is horrible after having DD by emergency C section 2 years ago. This new guy has always been so complimentary, telling me how beautiful I am etc but I was nervous to meet him in real life in case he was put off by my body.
FAR FROM IT. He was so complimentary, seemed genuinely delighted at the sight of my body and was very turned on. We had the most amazing sex and he just paid so much attention to me and to every part of my body. It was genuinely a new experience for me. We are meeting again on Monday.
I have childcare for DD (a lovely nanny whom she adores- we are not in UK so it's affordable) but am meeting new guy during the day, not leaving DD overnight or anything. No plans for new guy to meet DD of course. New guy and I are both teachers and we have both just broken up for the holidays, so I'm basically planning a summer of fun... I'm just posting because I want to know if this is a crazy thing to be doing? I mean, it seems to be really positive to me, but am I deluding myself somehow?