New man. How can I help him to come?

[FreDsk]

New man can come easily with blow jobs. When inside me he can go for ages and just doesn’t come. He’s said he’s nervous and wants to make sure I’m ok. I can believe this as he’s very respectful and inexperienced with sex. I’ve tried to get him to relax a bit. He doesn’t watch porn as far as I’m aware and he’s very loving in intimacy. Once when drunk he said he will sort himself out maybe once a week or so but that he doesn’t usually watch anything. I don’t think it’s related to porn. Are there better positions to help this, should I do more foreplay? It’s starting to worry me.

Is he an ex naval officer from south Glamorgan? He is, isn’t he?

It’s not you, it’s him.

@Nandakanda

Because the porn 100% brigade have absolutely no fucking idea what they’re talking about.

Where the fuck do you get such dodgy info from?

you sound very angry 🤣

@FreDsk

Death grip???

The idea behind death grip syndrome suggests that if a man learns to masturbates with a very tight grip, he gets used to this sensation and can only cum this way, it further goes on to suggest that a man will not be able to cum via oral sex either, but if you can make him cum with oral, probably not an issue

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death-grip_syndrome

Fear of pregnancy is real for some men. Rightly so! Whereas with oral he can relax, zero risk.

OP don't make a mountain out of this. If you're getting your orgasms during your time together then why are you trying to dictate his. He doesn't have ED, doesn't have premature ejaculation issues. If you get bored of the oral you can tickle his balls while he wanks himself off to finish. It can be very nice actually to relax during PIV knowing you have enough time to get your own orgasms in

@QueenBee52

It is fairly annoying to sit through thread after thread by female "experts" on male sexuality expounding with great authority on wanking and "death grip" - whatever that is.

Has it occurred to anybody that the bloke might just be telling the truth? It would be fairly normal to feel a bit nervous with a new partner (especially if he really likes her). OP may be "loose" downstairs although I wouldn't want to presume too much. On the other hand, there's no holding back from a really good bj.
Men overwhelmingly prefer real women to imagination. I wouldn't take too much notice of the death grip brigade, although such unfortunates probably do exist.

Forgot to add that if you think It might be a DSG issue check out health line, it talks about learned behaviours and how to unlearn them.
www.healthline.com/health/death-grip-syndrome

Most men have a trigger.

One ex it was gently scratching the back of his head, another it was tickling/scratching his sides. Another it was legs in certain position.

See if you can figure one out for him. Nothing more boring than banging on forever..