Elderly Neighbour/Party Wall Agreement/I lost it today

[UndercoverToad]

We have been trying to convert our loft for about two years now. We have planning permission, but neighbour would only agree to an Agreed Surveyor if we changed them - which we did.
DP does odd jobs for neighbour and we were on good terms - although I hadn’t brought up conversion for a while due to Covid.
Spoke about it again a couple of weeks ago and neighbour not happy.
Today she came out and asked me to cut back a bush overhanging her garden. I agreed. But - feeling pissed of - I pointed out that her builder (repaired her driveway) had knocked out 2 bricks in our front wall.
I then spoke about the conversion and party wall agreement stating ‘it’s probably a similar process as to when you had your extension done’ - to which she said ‘I’m not going to talk about it - speak to my solicitor (she means surveyor).
I’ve just screwed up haven’t I???

I was trying to keep on good terms but now I think I’ll be paying for two surveyors….

Woman up and crack on
. If she is going to make it difficult and get multiple surveyors there is nothing you can do to stop her.
So detach, instruct the professionals and get going. Shr isn't going to become more reasonable with time.

@BaileysforBreakfast - elderly. She is possibly vulnerable as she lost her husband about a year ago. And some perhaps age related issues e.g we found 2 holes had appeared in our back fence. The wood knot was below the hole, so we put it back in. A few days later, a stone had been out in the other hole from her side. And then a few days later, wood had been glued on from her side.

It did look like she’d made the holes to look into our garden, and she’s always watching me/her neighbours from the front window.
I had one phone call where she’d watched her neighbours on the other side - knew the exact timings they usually leave the house.

Was asking me why they were leaving at a different time??

I don’t get what the issue is? There’s an agreed process, just follow it—should have been done and dusted ages ago. No need to get into tit for tat, you don’t have to do favours for her if you don’t want to either.

Maybe it would be the builder liable for the bricks. But it might be murky - I always thought the home owner was responsible for work they commission which then affects a neighbour. But I might be wrong.

Just to add! Since 9am this morning, my neighbour has had a workman with some kind of petrol contraption in her garden. I went out and recorded the sound level (yes I’m petty) - and it’s over 70 decibels.

And only last week she was complaining about building noise from another neighbour….
The floor is vibrating in our living room!! Fumes in our garden and over our windows that were cleaned yesterday!

It’s not that I actually have a problem with her doing it - I have a problem about her doing it BUT THEN moaning and being obstructive when anyone else does it!!

We had this once. Let the surveyors proceed and then get the third if not. It's not as expensive as you imagine, if I remember correctly. At least call the surveyors for prices so you know where you stand. And ask about timescales too. Don't engage with her over it . Once you have the agreement you can sort out the other neighbour stuff, or not.

I am pro my 10 year old having the vaccine. I realise her risk from Covid is low, but I’m concerned about the potential unknown effects of Covid in the future. This concerns me more than any side effects from vaccine.

Also - as with the flu vaccine - when my daughter receives it, I know her risk is low - but it’s more about protecting and helping the rest of society.

Wrong thread!!