Concerned about husbands new relationship

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I'm going through a divorce, Husband adultery.
He's seeing someone 10yrs younger a personal fitness instructor, he's says he want to be on his own for 2-3yrs... but seeing someone it early days started to have feelings for her and going to see how it develops.
He has money.
He took her away to London for birthday, looks like an ex saw this and commented on FB, then did a group message on messenger, saying only dating his for his money, so they can go into business, said some other stuff that I'd only know (Husband was lying on his movements) told about hotels staying at, I only did a thumbs up.
Found a credit card he'd added to his account for her, a huge amount teens of thousands. He's Splashing the cash,. Luxury breaks, clothes, credit card, he's got a new image, expensive bikes, gifts.
So after this broke out... (must of been a conversation between them) she's said its a stalker, he's very violent... have murder someone, put trackers on cars,
Husband is worried for his life... seems to think her stalker have been in contact with me... desperate to know what information I've got! He's NOT been to the police yet now 5days after the event.
Personally I think its totally made up story, to get him back interested as she wants his money. He can't see this at all...
I'm thinking romance fraud?

Sorry OP, I think I've got that your STBXH is seeing somebody else; a fitness trainer and he's been spending loads of cash on her. I'm confused about the stalker though. How does this fit in?

After the fall out on the messenger, she made a story up, about the person who put the posts on and the group messenger.

Sorry OP that's really hard to follow, I'm not quite sure what's happened?

He's dating someone (let's call them Becky) and a man claiming to be Becky's ex has been shit talking her on Facebook and in messaging saying she's a gold digger, but Becky says the guy is a stalker who is violent?

What would your ex go to the police about? I can't see what crime has been committed against him other than someone taking advantage of him (to get gifts and hotel stays etc) being gullible, if she really isn't interested in him?

Why are you in a messenger group with the ex partner of your husband’s new partner?

Which isn't a crime in itself obviously, which was my point. So not sure what your ex would call the police about?

You need to disengage and leave them to it.

Not your circus or your monkeys, really, is it?

Whatever is between your ex's new girlfriend and your ex's new girlfriend's ex is 100% not your problem. Your business with him is about whether he effectively co-parents and pays appropriate maintenance. Stay away from the rest of the drama.

I read that twice and struggled to understand it

He’s seeing someone else
Some random put a post on face book saying she was only after his money but posted stuff only you’d know?
The new woman has said she’s a stalker who is a murderer?
You think it’d made up to get him back as you think she thinks a stalker who is a murderer would make him interested in her even more?

Well, divorce before he blows the lot. Obviously

And why would she need to get him interested again if they are dating?

Are you concerned the money pot is shrinking?

@Fishsouper

Why are you in a messenger group with the ex partner of your husband’s new partner?

This is what I think I'm not getting

He thinks his life is at risk...

Her ex put me in... so I'd find out more info

Yep...

I only did a thumbs up.

Why?

She's using him for his money

I'm not sure having a stalker ex threatening to kill him will make him more interested

Why did you engage with this person to start with when you could have just ignored them?

And what crime against him do you think your husband should be reporting to the police?

Genuine questions as it's confusing.

You have no idea if she only wants his money or not, but it's not your business. The fact this ex contacted you and is insulting her makes him sound like a stalker to me.

Her ex made a messenger group, added you in it and you gave him a thumbs up when he told you she was a gold digger?

Do you know the ex? If not why would you even let him involve you in this?

The is your exs problem and if he is really scared for his life, he can contact the police.

"He thinks his life is at risk..."

So? 🤷🏽‍♀️

Also, he does sound like a stalker. And since you are engaging with him, it could appear you are part of it.

I imagine you're a bit worried that someone is going to accuse you of being the stalker. Especially with them saying "things only you would know."

Good idea to stop all this communicating.

It's not your business or problem so leave everyone else to it.

Break ups suck and jealousy is human but step away from the phone...things could get a whole lot worse and none of who he dates, why or messages sent between others is your problem...thank goodness!

honestly OP the main thing I would be worrying about is that he spends money that should be divided between you before the divorce comes through. After that point, if he's going to splash his remaining cash on this woman or on bodyguards to keep him safe from this woman's ex, its really nothing to do with you. I would be keeping a track on the credit cards - does she have the power to run up a bill that joint money/martial assets will be used to pay off? I would not be engaging with her, her facebook, her ex, or anything that will distract you from extracting yourself from the situation as quickly as you can.