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Concerned about husbands new relationship

39 replies

Seawaves · 28/06/2021 14:09

I'm going through a divorce, Husband adultery.
He's seeing someone 10yrs younger a personal fitness instructor, he's says he want to be on his own for 2-3yrs... but seeing someone it early days started to have feelings for her and going to see how it develops.
He has money.
He took her away to London for birthday, looks like an ex saw this and commented on FB, then did a group message on messenger, saying only dating his for his money, so they can go into business, said some other stuff that I'd only know (Husband was lying on his movements) told about hotels staying at, I only did a thumbs up.
Found a credit card he'd added to his account for her, a huge amount teens of thousands. He's Splashing the cash,. Luxury breaks, clothes, credit card, he's got a new image, expensive bikes, gifts.
So after this broke out... (must of been a conversation between them) she's said its a stalker, he's very violent... have murder someone, put trackers on cars,
Husband is worried for his life... seems to think her stalker have been in contact with me... desperate to know what information I've got! He's NOT been to the police yet now 5days after the event.
Personally I think its totally made up story, to get him back interested as she wants his money. He can't see this at all...
I'm thinking romance fraud?

OP posts:
Bluntness100 · 28/06/2021 17:09

Um this is so weird

Op he’s moved on, I’m so so sorry for what happened to you and I get it must be gut wrenching. But his love life is his business.

charlotteself · 28/06/2021 17:24

Leave him to it.
Block the new girlfriend's ex and her.

Have you got a good lawyer to make sure the money doesn't disappear?

gonow · 28/06/2021 17:53

No fool like an old fool

NowEvenBetter · 28/06/2021 17:57

No idea what you’re on about OP, but who cares? Get the divorce moving along faster and enjoy life.

Tlollj · 28/06/2021 18:01

Get divorced quickly before he spends it all on the new woman who may or may not be a gold digger, who may or not be being stalked.
Then fuck em leave them to it.

NotaCoolMum · 28/06/2021 18:04

Why do you actually care? He’s your EX. Next time his GFs “ex” messages you- id suggest telling him that it’s nothing to do with you. 🤷🏻‍♀️

MadMadMadamMim · 28/06/2021 18:11

Block them all.

It's fuck all to do with you - you're getting divorced because he's a cheating dickhead.

If he told me he was worried his life was at risk I'd have laughed in his face and said, Win-win for me, then? All the assets, your life insurance and a grave to dance on!

Why does he think you should care about his pathetic drama?

NotStayingIn · 28/06/2021 18:17

What are you hoping to achieve by being involved in this shit show? Your honest answer to that question can guide the answers. But personally, I would advise you to block everyone and live your life! Who cares what these people are up to, how does it impact you?

beenwhereyouare · 30/06/2021 01:49

For those asking why OP should feel it's any of her business, she has a right to half their marital assets. He does not have the right to spend it all before their financial agreement is approved by the court and the split is complete.

Is he trying to spend everything? Is he being fooled into giving it to the new gf? It wouldn't be the first time a new partner tried to get as much of the money as possible before it's split in the settlement. And not the first time for a divorcing spouse to be duped out of cash or to spend it rather than splitting it.

I am not saying this is true in OP's situation, but she definitely has a dog in this fight and the right to be concerned about it.

Mayaspecialist · 30/06/2021 05:30

Is shevwas worried about the money i would agree her concerns.

But its not the money she is worried about.

LadyWithLapdog · 30/06/2021 06:04

I’m envious of all the luxury breaks when no one can travel much nowadays.

I agree with the others. Ensure your divorce gets finalised quickly, while there is still money in the pot.

whatthejiggeries · 30/06/2021 06:14

I don't think any of it is your issue - but definitely speak to a solicitor quickly and see if you can freeze the bank account so he doesn't spend what's due to you. Focus on that - he made his bed ....

bigbaggyeyes · 30/06/2021 08:01

I'm struggling to understand why you'd even give a shit what he's up to. Let them get on with it.

bonfireheart · 30/06/2021 08:08

This all sounds like you're enjoying the drama OP. I don't even talk to my ex (father of my child) and you're in contact with your ex girlfriends ex...

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