How to get his attention

[Shillelaghsally]

What are the things you’d do to try and (re)attract the attention of a man you have previously slept with who ghosted you as a result of being fresh of a long term relationship? Please no ‘don’t bother’ responses, I understand that point but I have decided to pursue him anyway. I want constructive tips if anyone has them (for example, post a very hot selfie). It’ll have to be something via social media as we are not in contact in any other way anymore.

How long ago did his relationship end?

I wouldn't send hot selfies, that's a bit desperado. Maybe just live your "best life" on social media so he remembers how much fun you are. All very transparent though.

Why don't you just ask him for no strings sex?

It's a bit sad you've decided to lose your self respect just to get some bloke who ghosted you to notice you again.

He'll reel you in, use you and disappear again.

Please don't post hot selfies, it looks cheap, and if he's a decent bloke, he'll be turned off by cheap.

I wouldn't anymore but for some reason in the past, the only thing that worked with "him" was ignoring him, being busy and not making him the centre of my world. He couldn't stand it and would do anything to get my attention. Once he had it, he'd be horrible/ghost/cheat again.

But yeah... don't be too easy or available, hints of having another guy interested in you might make him insane with jealousy.

But seriously...just don't bother.

If he wanted to be with you he would. No amount of selfies or ‘pick me’ activity on social media is going to change his mind. He’s simply not that into you.

Please retain some of your dignity.

Definitely a hot selfie in bra and pants. All men love that.

He's ghosted you. Without being nasty he isn't interested and you look desperate.

Tbh you need to be direct and talk to him.Your adults and don't need to be coy especially as he's had his penis in you.

I'd reach out and tell him you like him and you'd like to date.

Hot selfie is too desperate.
Can't you just send him a message via social media and saying "Hi, how's it going?"

Definitely a hot selfie in bra and pants. All men love that.

So do their friends when they're bragging down the pub!

Loads of things can attract his attention. Nothing can be done to influence him to develop feelings for you this way.
You've already slept together, that's as close as it'll get in terms of being with him to see if anything develops. It hasn't.

How old are you both?

Are you in any form of contact with him at all right now?

Just talk to him and ask him out. Playing games is ridiculous, behave with dignity.

You need some self respect. If he wanted a relationship with you he wouldn't be ghosting you.
He's a grade A twat that hasn't the balls to tell you straight. Is that what you want in a partner?

Why would you want his attention?
I was in your shoes once and I tried to get guys attention when they were ghosting me but now when I look back I regret that so much.

If you really need an advice then my advice is to not write him at all but post pictures of yourself being happy and pretty and sexy. Men hate it when they realize a woman doesn't care about them anymore.. that might get his attention. Acting desperate really turns a guy off especially that he "had you" already.

Still, my opinion is that you need no man's attention but since i've been there done that.. the only think that worked for me is showing how happy and sexy I am without him (but not through direct message - through insta stories, fb, etc).

Good luck!

He ghosted you because he's a dick, not because he wasn't ready for a relationship. Nice people don't treat people like that.

Stay away.

I wouldn’t.

FWB?

I'd personally move on, but otherwise just ask him if he wants a shag.
Direct and you know where you are!

He ghosted you because he wasn't interested.

Even if he had a tiny bit of interest, you would know.

I am confused about how you want to use social media buy say you can't contact him. If both on social media, you can just contact him.

I would suggest getting on with your life. That way, of he is really a price you getting on with your life will spark his interest. If he isn't and he genuinely doesn't care, you are just living your life like you should be.

My suggestions would be to message him and breezily ask him how he is and how his day is going. Do this daily so he knows you care.
Do you know his favourite dishes? If you can't cook then learn. They say the way to a man's heart is through his stomach.
Men are very receptive to nice images. Buy some expensive underwear and send him a daily picture to remind him of how you look.
Do you know much about his hobbies and interests? If so, read up on them and send a few casual messages relating to his hobby and how its a big interest of yours too. Try and create some common ground.
Most men appreciate satisfying, enriching sex. Message him that you feel frisky and wish he was here to help relieve your frustrations.
Many men have fragile ego's and they need to be treated gently and with kindness. Flatter him in your messages. Reassure him of his attractiveness to you and other woman and how you would be honoured to be his woman. Good luck OP. Let us know how it all goes.

Definitely a hot selfie! Stockings, suspenders, slightly opened mouth with bed hair….classy! I can hear the opening strains of ‘Desperado’ as I type this….