Would you be annoyed or upset if

[Starjumpermum]

Would you be annoyed/upset if your husband of 30 years gave away a family asset that wasn't being used (lets say an everyday ladies bike, - it wasn't a bike, but something of equal value to give you an idea) to another woman without telling you?
The woman being an acquaintance of his, not of yours.

I’d expect him to ask but it wouldn’t bother me too much

No, it wasn't being used.

Yes, I get this completely. It ends up not being about the “bike”, but (projecting here) about the feeling that the person who’s always supposed to put you first, didn’t. There was a quick and easy way to do this which he chose not to take as OP might object.

I would throttle him and make him get it back. If not, I'd contact her and say it was a mistake and get it back.

• of course only if it was something I'd wanted.

Otherwise I'd think it was weird and want to know why he was giving her a substantial gift.

Is this the blender lady....

Let me guess. This women is of dating age and someone he might consider attractive.

Imagine how mortifying it must be for him asking for it back. I couldn't do that to him. I like giving people things and could possibly get carried away and not discuss with dh. Maybe to a male colleague or friend. I would be shocked if he made a fuss and if he asked me to get it back l would want the ground to open up and swallow me rather than ask. There would be absolutely nothing involved with me and these guys except a flash of generosity. I think you are over reacting.

My dh would give away stuff that's in his remit in the family without asking me, any tech stuff, garden stuff, DIY. If it was something that I used more Ben if I hadn't touched it in years he wouldn't. But I don't know where most of our old phones, computers, tablets have ended up. And similarly he doesn't know where our old books, ornaments, kitchen gear, unwanted presents or clothes end up. Not a secret, just not very interesting.

*even if I hadn't touched it

Family assets, a blender?!