Fiancé won’t get married until all the restrictions are lifted

[KitKatLife101]

My OH proposed two years ago now, we was hoping to get married last year. I fell pregnant and hoped that we would get married just with the minimum amount of people allowed due to covid so that our child can be born to married parents. My OH categorically said no he’s not marrying me until he can have the day he wants with ALL the people he want there. It’s really hurtful as to me it seems like the party part of the wedding means more to him than the actual reason for getting married being the legal part. AIBU or would you feel the same …? I don’t care for the white dress or the dancing I just wanted to feel secure knowing I was married and bringing a child into the world to married parents. The child has been born now and due to finances and the day HE wants we may be looking at getting in married in 2023 which to me seems incredibly frustrating.

Hi OP, a couple of alternative thoughts....

1. If you wanted to have you subsequent child/ren in a marriage then arguably you should have had a wedding first instead? This ofcourse depends on whether your current pregnancy was an accident or you categorically told your bf in no uncertain terms this requirement while TTC.

1. If on the other hand he does not want to marry you and is 'tagging you along' then loss to him as you are the higher earner. It is perhaps not what you wanted but if he is not invested in your relationship then this works better for your financially...although less important that you ideal.

For me, marriage is not a party, but it is a time for people we love to celebrate our love. This is different for your and if you have been clear to your bf what marriage means to you the putting off is indeed disappointing.