Abusive mother wants access to my son

[MaryB90]

Hi all,

Hoping someone can help. My mother who I have no contact with as she is abusive, has heard that I am pregnant, just reached out to me to say if I don't make contact with her she will sue me for visitations with my child.

Is this possible? I'm so upset right now, I don't want to keep in touch with her for many reasons and I do not want her in my child's life. Been NC for 6 years now.

Please can someone advise 😢

Hi sorry to jump in on your post but I have been wondering the same thing due to mother being emotionally abusive also. Sounds v similar situation Only difference is I live in Ireland, but I'm from UK and my son was born there,and she had had contact in the past. so would the same advice apply does anyone know?

Your mum has obviously got narcissistic personality traits and there are large groups of daughters of mums with this supporting each other on line.
She has no rights , but make absolutely sure via solicitors and a handful of close friends why she must never have access to your baby . Be warned her tactics may become more disagreeable and it may be worth contacting a solicitor for advice as to how to keep her away from you. Remember you are a Tiger Mummy and you are going to keep your child in a safe and loving environment protected from your mum. X

She won’t get it OP. I have been through court regarding grandparent access and your mother doesn’t stand a chance in hell.

In order to keep it that way long term you must never let her see the child.

Make sure she doesn't ever have a relationship with your child - if that is what you want - as I believe the only claim is if they have an existing relationship and it would be detrimental to the child if this was not allowed to continue.

The courts might intervene to support a long standing and positive grandparent relationship if it were thought to be of benefit to the child but even then I wouldnt bank on it (as a grandparent). The chances of them intervening to create a relationship are exactly nil.

Just dont engage OP, you are free.

@KaleJuicer

Ignore her. Don’t waste your money on legal advice - I’m a lawyer and I’ll tell you for free! She has no rights to a child she’s never met. As others say it could be different if she was an established part of your child’s life. But she’s not nor will she be. Congratulations on your pregnancy.

And as a Barrister I absolutely second this!

Enjoy your pregnancy, and all the very best.

@AllllTheStupidQuestions

Tell her to fuck off, she has absolutely no claim on your baby.

That 100%. She can sue away, she'll get nowhere. Don't let this woman spoil things for you. Congratulations on your pregnancy.