He gets home from work and as the norm lays out on the sofa while I perch at the end with our toddler having his bedtime milk. We usually have his bedtime CBeebies show on at this time but partner has football on even though he’s head is stuck scrolling through FB on his phone and has barely lifted his eyes.
I then get a whiff of his work feet which are up by our end of the sofa.
Me: phew your feet stink
Him: And you’re an ugly bastard
Me: sorry what?!
Him: I said you’re an ugly bastard
Me: why are you saying that?!
Him: I thought we were stating facts, you said my feet smell and I’m just stating the fact that you’re a fucking ugly bastard.
Me: Why have you got to be such a horrible person?
Him: I’m simply stating facts I thought we were fact sharing.
Baring I’m mind he knows I’m feeling insecure about my looks since I’m 7 months pregnant and struggling with the heat.
He often responds with (what I feel are) huge overreactions to very often simple comments or questions (often not even me criticising I asked the other day what colour his niece and nephews eyes were as I was wondering about the eye pigment dominance on his side of the family and he yelled back ‘I don’t fucking know who gives a fuck, who the fuck pays attention to fucking eye colour?!).
His reactions often take me by surprise and of course always puts the blame back on me. We’ve recently had a round of couples counselling (triggered by me seeking therapy for being depressed and during my assessment they recommended couples therapy - which he reluctantly took part in but says it’s a waste of time and only doing it to shut me up).
Am I being over sensitive??