I really need advice now please!!

[Jozzy7]

So me and my partner was watching something last night about killers and i said couples make each other go crazy and start killing each other i dont understand why and we started talking anyway i said to him you wouldn't kill me and he said i would.. I said what if I ever cheaten on you you would kill me and he said yes I really would id kill you i and I would kill him id go to the police and tell them what I did not letting you live your happy life living with what you had done and if I cant have you no one can and I said you actually would he said yeah i really would and I made him swear on our son if i ever cheated he would and he said i swear on our son if you ever cheated i would be going down for murder fuck that moving on to get hurt again maya swell kill you then get sent down because no way if get with anyone else and me cheated on again I don't know what to think obvs I wouldn't cheat but what do you all think? Please let me know

You need to get as far away from him as you can as soon as possible.

It sounds very dramatic. Did it sound like a threat? If so you should be thinking about whether this is the right person to be with.

Well he swore on our son he would he sounded serious he said so take this as a warning dont cheat on me what do you think

Reading that sent shivers down my spine . You are living with a potential murderer/abuser .I would be rethinking my options if I were you .

I think you should break up with him

Oh dear. Massive red flag.

Fuck..... that's scary!!! Run!!!

hmmm

This sounds like a strange conversation to even start with someone you love. Why did you feel the need to ask him that leading question? Is it because you suspected he was capable and were looking for confirmation?

Either way; when someone shows you who they are, believe them.

If you do decide to leave, plan it out beforehand and don't act impulsively. Have a family member or friend aware of the whole situation and assist you. Perhaps ask the police to attend when you leave the property. This man has already told you, quite clearly, that he would rather you died than you live happily without him. Take heed of that and respond safely and smartly.

He has basically told you what he would do and I would take that as a clear warning. Let’s say he thought he found incriminating stuff on you, which had no grounds, but due to your partners clear misjudgement already, can you trust him now? You have a child with him. He has told you what he will do, I would run and hide as this isn’t love. This is a very scary behaviour

@Honeyroar

It sounds very dramatic. Did it sound like a threat? If so you should be thinking about whether this is the right person to be with.

Did it sound like a threat???!!! Ffs! How to minimise abuse ^^

I just asked because I couldn't understand why people do such things in relationships and I don't know what made me ask him i just thought he'd have a diffrent response

And he said he didn't know probably strangle me or something because of the anger and rage he would feel we do have a son he's 12 - 13 weeks old

Perhaps you should ask him what he'd do if you left him, no cheating involved.

I'd did he said nothing but I said and if I got with someone else he said I'll let you think about that one

Wow . I’d be looking at getting away from him ASAP . It is not unheard of for abusive men to punish their ex’s by injuring or killing their DC , when the woman tries to leave . Obviously it’s not a common thing , but it does happen . Please treat this with the gravity it needs . Supposing he didn’t even have any proof of you cheating , just a suspicion, this is very serious .

Wtf?
How long have you been with him ?

So he’s prepared to leave your son without a mother and a father?

He’s literally promised to murder you if you don’t do as he says

Op you have to leave now.

Imagine he gets paranoid (for any number of reasons) then starts to suspect you're seeing someone else. Oh god please get out

That's what I said youd kill the mothor of your child and he said yes and about 2 years on and off I said to him but why I wouldn't do that if you cheated on me if walk away leave you and that's when he said well that's the difference between me and you

That's terrifying! He sounded like he meant what he said. You need to leave him, it's a no brainer I'm afraid...

I really wouldn't focus on the 'how' this conversation came about and be more worried and very concerned about the things he said next

I've got that horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach op. Please get out

For your safety and that of your DC, I think you should believe him and make hasty plans to leave . I cannot think of any good reason why anyone should say such things even in jest, although it doesn't sound like he joking.

Take advice on how to do it safely. Try Women's Aid and the police for advice and protection and seek real life support. If he is that vindictive a person, he could be very dangerous if you leave.

Stay safe.

He sounds like a bloody psychopath. I would not be staying.