I don't want to do online dating, and I won't. I'm of the opinion that if I meet somebody, I do. I'm not sufficiently interested to go out looking for someone. And I have read about so many losers on here! But here's the thing.
I don't do casual sex. I'm not interested in it and my mojo only works if I am both attracted to and in a mutually committed relationship with someone. But it takes time to get there and most guys these days, with all the choice/sweetshop mentality/swiping etc would just give up. I also don't feel the need for it if I'm not in a relationship with someone - it's as if my mojo is attached to an individual! Of course I see blokes I fancy and say with my girlfriends things like "I would wouldn't you?" but in reality I wouldn't shag a stranger/celebrity even if I got the chance!
When I met my ex, we met in early May and we were definitely mutually attracted straight away we went out every weekend and spoke every day (he lived in Birmingham) and we first slept together late June. We were together for years.
So my question is, how would you handle those difficult first few dates around this subject? How would you make that obvious to a bloke without actually spelling it out and them thinking you're a weirdo?
Another thing I wouldn't do is the 'moving in'. I'd never move in with a guy (I own my own house anyway) My friend was a serial mover-inner and always had to come home to her parents. However she met someone really great (on Match.com surprise surprise), married him and they now have an 18 month old baby. He's in the army (the husband, not the baby). She was the exception though I think.
I think with my approach it is going to be me and my cats forever, but I would rather that than a) waste time with wankfoxes b) have sex I don't want to have to keep someone interested c) compromise.