All in my head or is it abuse?

[PurpleRainStorm1987]

Ok so ive been married for 12 years, ive 3 young children (2 under 5 and 1 who is 6yrs old) my 6 yr old has learning and behavioural disabilities.
My husband has me constantly doubting my own mind, im an argument or if i say i dont like something he has done he twists it so that its my fault or ive made it up, it didnt happen how i remember it.
He also shouts and screams at our eldest son when he wont do as he is told, he slams his fist down on the table next to him or the sofa, or the kitchen worktop, whichever he is near. He has slammed my sons door shut so hard that the entire handle has fallen off. Pictures have fallen from the walls, there are cracks around every door frame. He says things like he is done dealing with our son. Im always the one to calm our son down, who screams mummy mummy when husband gets angry, son is scared. Husband will drag him to where son is supposed to be (like if ive called him through to the livingroom & he hasnt come) by his arms & sometimes by arm & tshirt. Our son constantly says thinks like he wants a different daddy & daddy is nasty & daddy needs to go away.
I raise it with husband & he twists it all saying he didnt drag by arms he was holding hands, yet i clearly saw red marks on sons arms, husband says they werent there, not possible & im seeing things. I doubt my own mind.
What do i do? I have no job, he convinced me it would be better me staying home with the kids, no car, nothing, im solely reliant upon him.

You poor woman.

You need support.

Your son is being terrorised, as is the whole house.

Please ring Women's Aid, SS, your GP, the police.

You need to get this awful man removed from the home.

LTB protect your kids and yourself. This is heartbreaking to read that you even need to ask this question. I hope you find the help you need.

SS are probably not what you need. From experience they are too namby pamby and will believe any old shit he feeds them, and sadly you sound too scared of him to disagree. Womens aid are definitely your best bet.
You and your children should get far far away from this child abuser. It won't be long before you walk into cupboards, doors or fall down stairs 'by accidents'.
Please listen to all the good advice you have been given.
He is gaslighting and controlling every aspect of your life, not to mention the life long damage to your children. Being aggressive with one and not the other will set the kids against each other eventually.... its a shit situation from experience. My siblings and I have only recently mended our relationships after similar experiences.
Good luck 💐

Call the social workers again, they will help you through this, you need to protect your children x

Yes of course he is abusive. Phone social services again and report him. Ask for help to get him out. And FFS double up on contraception.

my dad used to physically drag me around the house by my feet was this assault?

get him out

ZOMBIE THREAD.

Peggy1234 you'd be better off starting your own thread. But yes, that would be abusive (Unless of course it was a game you played or something obviously).