Asked dp to leave, 20 weeks pregnant now he is totally ignoring me

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Relationship has been very up and down for the last year . Been together 3 years. We both decided on a child and had been discussing the past 2 years, im now 20 weeks pregnant. I have 3 dc from ex dh. Thursday we had yet another horrid day together doing the garden dp kept threatening to not do it then he is, then he isn't. We went to bed that night both on non speaking terms. The next morning while at work I txt dp and asked him to leave cause I can't do this anymore this happens a lot then he usually comes back the next day. Well I had one message to say he will stay away and nothing since. He ha ignored all further messages from me. I have my scan next week and I don't know what is happening with him and its making me so anxious and I'm not sleeping at night at all.

I totally understand i can't keep saying that and I don't blame him , I guess I have to just get on with my life

I think you need to accept that this is the end of the road in terms of your relationship. You have got what you wanted. Move on an focus in on your baby and how you’ll co parent when not in a relationship. Best of luck.

You do have to get on with your life- hard as that may seem. You really can’t bring a baby into such a toxic and hostile household. It will devastate your mental health and need I even mention how terrible it will be to introduce your child into a life of high anxiety, instability, and uncertainty? Your child will grow up not knowing the sky from the ground. Topsy turvy.
So, he’s gone.
Now he needs to engage with you as a parent. Even that will take time and a lot of effort.
You’re about to raise a child. Get some counselling, OP. This will strengthen you and help you to understand yourself better so that you can parent effectively and let go of your own unhealthy patterns.
You do what you must to strengthen yourself for your role of a lifetime, literally! As for your ex, well, you can’t work on him. You can’t fix him. Work on you. You can’t make your ex into what you need him to be. All you can do is work on yourself and ensure that you grow in resilience. Raise your baby with love and confidence. I was a lone parent for many, many years. From a broken place, I evolved into a loving, reliable, trustworthy, honest, levelheaded mother. You can do this without him. And if you both decide to give it a final go, at least make every single effort to go through counselling together. Your child is your truth… you are their mirror. What do you want your child to see?

This is not healthy. Think of all your dcs.

With a guy 3 years and dump him by text. That’s harsh!

Why do you think he would come back the next day if you told him to leave? Maybe his bored of playing your silly games?