On-Line Dating - the biggest lies?

[DadAManger]

Who is the most misleading person you have met via On-Line Dating and what was their fib/lie/massive misrepresentation?

Did you find out at the first meeting or did it takes months of an actual relationship?

There seems to be massive amounts of misrepresentation in dating on-line...

@Spasiba match made in heaven then

Why would someone lie about weight/height/hair colour, when the truth will be obvious. Imagine explaining those away, well I was slim but I’ve eaten a good 100 donuts since our last message, or I’ve dropped a few inches, my hair was brown but it miraculously changed to ginger over night. Crazy!

@GotBeatenUp

I was very lucky to find an amazing, honest, caring guy though who had been as messed around by the other women he'd met as I had by the men. I managed to meet one of these without OLD. Poor chap, all his exes were psychopaths.

Mine was honest to a fault, right, finances, divorce situation etc. I consider myself so lucky to have him.

I can take the comment about exes a step further though- we found out later through court related to child custody that his ex wife genuinely does have a personality disorder and she'd hidden it!

One told me he had 2 sons - who he never saw, but they turned out to be the sons of 2 of his exes, neither of them were his, and he saw one of them maybe once in the time we were together (meeting arranged by his "son's" fiancee to show off their new baby, who he called his grandson). Why lie about something like that? Its easy enough to find out the truth.

One was "average body type" - he was shorter than me (5'6") and had a massive beer belly.

One man I saw had a bio that said "all the usual pastimes" for interests. Wtaf does that mean, then? 🤦🏼‍♀️

In profile photo he had long-ish swishy hair model hair. On date he was bald.

Another one looked great in profile photo. On date I realised the photo was about 15yrs old and he looked nothing like it.

I had a date last night with a man who was 5ft 9
Perfectly pleasant chap but I won't be able to see him again as I clearly have a very serious medical problem that will need all my attention
As I was taller than him and last time I checked I was 5 ft 4 !!!!!!!
Nice guy but bullshit from the start ? No thank you

@HappilyHadesBound, he had plenty to say about his adulterous ex-BIL.
He cheated and when I confronted him, got my username.

Every single pleasant memory of him is superimposed with the image of him punching me.

I don't think I could find much worse than on OLD, but I thought the world of him, and look how wrong I was.

[quote GottBeatenUp]@HappilyHadesBound, he had plenty to say about his adulterous ex-BIL.
He cheated and when I confronted him, got my username.

Every single pleasant memory of him is superimposed with the image of him punching me.

I don't think I could find much worse than on OLD, but I thought the world of him, and look how wrong I was.[/quote]
Oh that's terrible, I'm so sorry that happened! There are good guys out there, I promise- but also, it's ok to be single and focus on yourself and your own needs for as long as you need!

Men (and women! Like my lovely DP's ex) are completely beyond me and all my sympathy is with those that have the misfortune to discover them.

The height thing I can kind of understand why people lie. I get that it affects the trust you have in them, however my partner found that most women stopped talking to him when they found out he's only 5ft 4- even if they seemed to like him before and there was no other reason.

Perhaps if people didn't discriminate on things like that then they wouldn't have to lie.

My DP never lied about that though, and I couldn't care less about his height, so I suppose I should be glad other people were a bit more shallow... 😂

@DadAManger

I had my own version of a major mislead some years ago when I was OLD overseas. I chatted for weeks to a very nice lady who said she was a secretary and was looking for something serious. When it came time to meet, she came into the cafe accompanied by a burly gentleman who sat nearby glowering at us. I asked her who this chap was - "just my security" she said airily. I had booked a restaurant nearby - the security waited outside while we ate.

Her phone rang during the main course and I heard an irate Australian lady say "DON'T ASK LARRY FOR ANY MORE MONEY! HE'S BROKE! HE CAN'T PAY FOR YOUR PICTURES ANYMORE, OK?!". My dining companion listened carefully, sighed as if this was the story of her life and then let rip with a series of expletives before hanging up, dabbing her lips with a napkin and getting back to her fish dish

Since it had become crystal clear that this lady was for hire, I suggested we get early nights. She became agitated and said we had not even discussed a price for the night yet. When I insisted she went home and gave her money for a taxi and a bit of spending money she slammed the taxi door and her and her "security" drove off into the night. Of course I got a dozen phone calls that night with her calling me cheap and "a nothing that couldn't afford the fee". Not exactly the start to a serious relationship I had been expecting :)

A born saleswoman!

Was seeing a retired policeman in his early 50s a few months a few years ago

Turns out he had been sacked for sleeping with victims of domestic violence

Bye!

Had a date today and thought of this thread! The guy warned me that his hair was a lot longer than in his pics. This was a red flag to me as I knew they had to be a good couple of years out of date. Sure enough he picks me up and he’s a good 3/4 stone heavier! Thing is that in itself wouldn’t necessarily put me off as he wasn’t hugely fat just a lot bigger than his pics, but the lying is so off putting. His pics had to be at least four years out of date I reckon. Such an easy lie to get caught in too!

Wasn’t a match for various reasons anyway, just wasn’t attracted to him, but that really didn’t help matters. Oh well back to the drawing board!

Oh at one point he asked me if I had any dating horror stories, was telling him about the guy I mentioned upthread whose pics were a good ten years out of date and I suddenly realised halfway thru that it prob sounded like a dig at him!!!

So many men put up old photos it really is a bug bear of mine.
And I don't mean year old photos I'm talking 5-8 years old photos.
Your talking to what you think is a reasonably good looking guy then they send you a recent pic and they look like a totally different man.
Fair enough we all put up our most flattering photos but pics from eight years ago? And most of them had aged really bad.

Yes it was annoying! He was an OK bloke IRL but I matched with the man he was four years ago. Like I could see it was the same guy but he looked so different!

@petridishmystery he was lucky you stayed for the date after lying so much.
I always ask for a recent pic now before I meet up as I've been stung to many occasions and it just wastes everyone time.

I remember another one who said he owned his own home, that's not a factor for me but it ended up being a van he lived in full time, with no windows or toilet/shower just a bed basically. I'm not materialistic but I wouldn't call living in a van as being a homeowner

Height and weight.
Every fucking time

@espressomartiniftw

Height and weight. Every fucking time

This guy was at least honest about his height! But I do live somewhere where men being on the shorter side isn’t unusual.

The non drinking, active man who drank half a bottle of wine daily, without fail, whilst sitting on his backside for hours on end eating rubbish, staring at the tv or phone. Same guy sold himself as a business man. He was not. Actually a lovely guy but lived in some sort of Peter Pan fantasy land. Shame really as was very likeable!!

Oh yes that reminds me of another one - I don’t drink so whenever that gets mentioned the bloke will inevitably be like “oh yeah me too I don’t really drink” and then every time you ask them what they’re up to they're out with the lads for a few, or having some wine at home, their pics will include alcohol - so you do drink. That’s fine! I’m not against it! Don’t say you don’t really drink just so I’ll think we have something in common.