Dear members of the forum,
I've been reading the forum for some time but not posted for a while and I've also lost my login details.
I need some help especially from a female perspective.
I've recently moved in with my girlfriend and bought a house together after being together for over 3 years. We purchased it in agreement that I'd own 15% of the house based on the deposit but we'd share the bills, etc...
But within 2 weeks of moving in she says she now wants to buy my share and wants to own the house fully. Interestingly I thought we were ok relationship why and we didn't need to. But she persisted that if I don't do it her parents would see that I am poor and would not approve. They already do not approve because they think I am black, but I just am from africa but not black...I'm just indian descendant.
...anyway now she said that.
slowly after moving she criticised the way i clean is not thorough and good enough. Even though i spent 1hr30 to scrub off the calc in the bath tub, apparently it was not good enough. I've had loads of mini comments like so throughout living together. I brushed it off but it is getting a bit too much recently where even the dishes are not done properly or I'm not helping, even after we agreed what I should be cleaning. She couldn't wait more than 10min for me to brush my teeth on Sunday and she already started cleaning my part of the the chores.
She keeps having a go that I only cleaned the house once since we moved in.
But I don't only clean, as I finish working early I cooked dinner from Monday to Saturday while she finishes work. She then watches her ipad and then eats dinner, and I do the dishes regardless of who cooks because I apparently don't know how to clean the house.
But what hit it in the nail for me is that she does not let me buy and put my own desk. She told me that she doesn't like me using the dinning table as a work station and I should just go to work.
all the furniture in the house is mine, and she claimed my old desk and chair.
I bought a shredder for my work and document, and she had a fit as to why I bought this and I didn't need it, and there is no space for it.
I tried to buy a bookshelf, gardening box, etc... and I ended up being told off.
Yesterday she ask me I should pay an extra £100/month as she is going to increase the mortgage to 2200. I told her I don't see why I should do that if I'm not going to own the flat, unless you're going to pay me more than the 15% I invested. She said I should be glad that it is £1000 as a smaller flat where we live is around £1200/month. I was shocked at this. Even though the mortgage is jointly owned, and legally I still own the property I was already being messed about and being treated as a tenant.
What can I do?
I don't want to be in a relationship or live in a house where I can only use half of my own bed, my own couch and part of wardrobe. She has taken over practically all the space in the flat with her things and the way she wants it to be.
Are there anything legal I can do to protect myself?
Am I over reacting?