Tinder - bf lied about deleting the app

[SaritaJ]

Hi all. I’d like some honest advise please.

I started seeing a guy in January and it’s been going really well. We met on tinder and we both kept our profiles (although I’m not actively using mine). Then last week, he told me that he’s deleted his profile and the app, and, would I delete mine. I said yes, of course! So I did.

Alas....my friend Jenny who has had one too many bad experiences on tinder said I should make sure his profile “is” deleted before deleting mine. So when we were out for a drink last night, we created a blank profile, searched for him and voila, there he is! He even matched with us (despite us having no photo on the profile!) which means he’s doing the usual guy thing and blindly swiping away on the app!

I have never pressured him to remove the app or even brought it up. But he volunteered to me that he’d deleted it as he wanted to see how things went with me.

Clearly, I will be confronting him about this when I see him Saturday, but can I trust him again? Even if he offers to delete the app there and then, it’s easy to reinstall and I’m not sure I can believe him.

Any advise would be gratefully appreciated!

The same thing happened to me with my x partner, I was watching a discussion on a tv programme about finding your partner on dating sites so it made me think as that’s how we met and bingo I googled his dating app nickname and there he was and it showed he was active so many days before and it wasn’t the app I met him on so I guessed he’d still be on the one we met also but in ghost mode as that feature was possible, we’d been together nearly three years..
He went on and told loads of lies but it shattered me. If I was you I’d run while you can apparently some people are addicted to these sites and enjoy the buzz even when in relationships.
Good luck xx

That’s terrible I’m so sorry. I’m definitely getting rid of this guy. He’s not even an amazing catch but seemed like a sweetheart! His loss xx

Thanks it’s the shock, I couldn’t believe it.. You deserve better hun and it’s good you found out now then years down the line Xx

Pondscum 🤣🤣🤣

Yep agree 100% x

Don't even mention the tinder thing. Just tell him you don't fancy him any more, it'll dent his ego more.

@Londongirl865 have you left him?? I left my ex for the same reason. You'd never have known! Snapchat, Instagram, Onlyfans, lots of money splashed out on porn when it should've been going towards our daughter (instead, muggings here paid for everything). Literally wanking their money away! 🙈

Op, leave. If he's not devoted to you by now, you're never going to be "The One."

So how did you end it OP?

Get rid of him. This has happened to so many of my friends SO many times. The creating a fake profile to check/catch him out has saved so many of my friends time! Unfortunately these days, this kind of investigative work has to be done to weed out the losers.

Get rid of him. He’s a loser and a liar. He’s still on tinder because he is seeking out other options. Dump him hard.

@SaritaJ

Please tell me you haven't sent him the dumping text yet ??

I'd much rather you got your friend to suggest a date with him on Sat afternoon, somewhere very public ?

And at the arranged date time, you saunter up to him and you're all ''Hi BF ! What are you doing here ?'' then watch the bastard squirm !!

He'll be frantically trying to think up lies and an excuse to get you to leave, and you can play it cool, take your time, and really enjoy the sight of him terrified he'll be caught !!

When you've had your fill, simply say ''I'd better be going, I've got a really hot date tonight'' and wink at him, then say '' If you were planning to wait for xxxx (whatever your fake profile name is), she won't be coming !'' Then laugh all the way home !

God, I really hope you didn't send a text, or turn up.

If ever there was a case for ghosting it's this one.

Disappearing off the face of the earth and leaving him wondering why (except he'll know) is what will piss him off the most. It says 'you're not even worthy of a text'.

What a shister

I'm evil so I'd probably tell him his penis was too small.

I once left a 4 year relationship when he was at his grandparents 50th wedding anniversary. It was a normal day, he had no idea. I just dropped off the face of the earth.

@JadedStrumpet

Throw him back to Tinder. Sorry op but you'll never trust him...he isn't trustworthy!

I wouldn't even be seeing him to confront him

Just block and move on. That will annoy him more. If you send some heartfelt stuff about how hu hurt you, he will love that.

I just told him by text to not contact me again and then blocked him! 🤣

Yeah - I’m too nice! Wanted him to know that I caught him lying - he did squirm fir a while and apologise profusely but I’d made up my mind

I love this!! If we didn’t live 50 miles apart I could probably pull it off! It he’d know I want coincidentally at his local. Great plan though!